The Misfit Club - for all those aliens feeling left behind

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There seems to be quite a few of us that feel like we just don't belong - not even here on WP. I must admit that I find it ironic that a support community for the autistic wouldn't be much more understanding and less reactionary to people's comments knowing that their words can come out wrong, can be speaking from depression or anger or hurt, or may possibly not even be interpretting others words in the manner they were intended. People who can be afraid to put themselves out there to make friends in real life shouldn't have to suffer that same fear in the support community they turned to instead.

I'd like to fix that.

I have always worn the 'misfit' label proudly (and not just because of my undying love for Glenn Danzig and his devil lock... ) I have always been very outspoken for individuality, creative self expression and respect for all people and their beliefs, even if they are the polar opposite of my own. So, in that spirit, anyone who feels left out of the conversation, just doesn't know what to say, or feels that fear of judgement I invite you all here to say whatever is on your mind, even if it is just a shy hello. I'd be glad to meet you!

this is such a lovely idea.

^^^ thank you!

I happen to think you are a wonderful role model because you are so open and encourage others to do the same. I think we need more like you!

I'll shyly say "Hello"!

Definitely feel like a misfit though.

This is such a welcome surprise! I do sometimes feel that I can't truly connect to people. These boards are very large and they're still kind of the high school cafeteria (I don't say that to insult my dear fellows here, but to explain how my social inabilities affect me).

I'll do a top three of things that have come up during the weekend:

3. It feels really unfair that people call me crazy during conversations when really they don't understand the level of logic and intelligence I'm on, and they don't see that what they're saying is making no sense. And it makes me feel horrible to say it out loud. Even here.

2. It really blows to be Aspergerian, mixed raced, and a woman. Sometimes it makes me feel like the academic field I'm in is judging me for three things I can't change.

1. I'm annoyed that the social way my parents approached the Japan earthquake and tsunami ('Ahhhwww look at that man on the news, Nortier, it's soooo sad!) makes me ambivalent towards what actually happened there.

Awesome idea for a thread!

My personal view is that many people let their perceptions and shyness paralyze them. If they would just speak up occasionally I think they would be pleasantly surprised by how accepted they are - I say this from personal experience.

BTW - Danzig-era Misfits are awesome! "Static Age" is permanently installed in my CD changer...

I don't have anything to say - what should be discussed here?

Autistic people make those errors often, but also often have a problem allowing for such in others.

Acceptance would be easier than a fix, methinks. Though, It doesn't hurt to remind people. Sometimes I can forget that I'm dealing with a forum full of people with various degrees of different impairments .



Hi!

I'm kind of establishment here, and people might see me as relatively popular, but there's times I feel alienated and alone here too.

Thanks, and hello . Indeed, I see other people on here, and I feel even more different.

This is just the kind of proper niceness this site needs. Also, as I speak very literally and could have at a point not thought about what I was saying, have I said anything not-nice in the past? If I did I'm sorry, it wasn't intentional

I don't feel very accepted here. I think alot of people here are way more capable than me and there's a disconnect between what i'm capable of and what's expected of me- to be social, to work, to be proud to be an aspie and be happy with my gifts etc. I'd be happy with a fleeting moment of passing grace in my life right now.

I can relate to your sentiments, with exception to being a woman; albeit being of tall stature does add to being judged. From my perception, I have always been assumed to be of low intelligence, whether it be at academics, professions, or interpersonal relationships. I could go on about such things, but they are uninteresting to people as I have learned.

I sometimes wonder if it is the personal experiences I have endured through time that have caused my acute cynicism, stoicism, and general misanthropy, or if I am simply just meant to be a hermit! It is difficult to reflect on my
early youth to associate these feelings before a time in which my perception of existence could be externally influenced by others, permanently.

(EDIT:)I suppose the knowledge I have gained through occult teachings have affected me the most, upon further inflection. When you travel this path and discover outrageous things that you can apply to your own logical observations, and realize, with certainty, you have awoken from a spell that only few will, and have, manage to accomplish the same. It is impossible to relay such an experience to another, unless they have endured similar circumstances and experience throughout their life, and are already suspicious of such matters. How do you tell a dreamer they are dreaming? You don't!

In other words, hello, from another alienated individual of humanity. In another two years, my post count may reach two hundred!

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Excuse me, sir, but there is no Misfits without Danzig. There is, however, a Danzig without the Misfits. He's just that awesome.

Couldn't agree more, but there's still that awful Misfits parody band running around using the name - try telling them...

Post-Danzig Misfits don't exist in my universe. Just like Batman & Robin.

I think part of being an Aspie is often feeling like you're on the outside.

Though, I've felt accepted by the people I've had contact with so far. Unfortunately, it's a big site and I haven't interacted with everyone. For those who feel unaccepted, you are always welcome in my circle (wherever that may be). Sometimes I'm oblivious, so it's not obnoxious to PM me and introduce yourself. I am up for Aspie friends of all kinds.

Here's to feeling alone, together.

come down to the adult forum.
we chat about random stuff all the time there - all lightheartedly!
way less depressing than certain other sub-forums.