Times when I feel unattractive...

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I hadn't considered it, nor do I care if I was.
I just wanted to let you know that there WERE in fact people who found it insulting.

If you read my post, you will find you are mistaken. As you see, I reminded her that she shouldn't necessarily write men off who are a little heavy or older than what she expected.

I also believe a person shouldn't settle for someone they aren't attracted to, however, and this goes for men as well as women. But the men tend to rant that they can't get *A* woman, and typically conveniently ignore the existence of women less than perfect. If they were not omnibusing their sentiments that they can't get *A* woman with their desire for women of admittedly high caliber, so to speak, and converting any self insight into misconceptions they have of what women want in men, and then translating that to bitterness of women, I don't think anyone would take issue with it.

This poster is not complaining that she can't get *A* man while ignoring less than perfect guys who would be happy to date her. She is stating that she can't get *the* man that she wants. She has not blamed her problem on society or what she thinks men want that she doesn't meet, and she has not expressed a bitterness or resentment towards men in general. Rather, she thought to herself something along the lines of "maybe I've represented myself the wrong way in my profile....what can I do to improve it?"

So you see, it's not really a double standard. A man who came on posting the same thing as the original poster, albeit stating that he couldn't get the type of women he wants, and asking if he should change his profile, he would have received the same response from me as I gave the original poster, with references to men replaced with women.

The OP is a he, that's why I said "...and homosexual guys".

He or she can hate and like whatever types he or she wants, I don't give a crap. Just criticized the chosen words to describe them.




It sounded more like: " I am supposed to be more attractive and hence I deserve much better than those low creatures called middle-aged and overweight men. Hélas! Where are the "A" men!"

Why a bad or the wrong-presented profiles would attract the less attractive males rather than attractive males? Seriously? It doesn't make sense to assume that there's a correlation between the presentation of your profile and how attractive the guys messaging you.

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