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Pandora_Box
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08 Apr 2011, 5:22 pm

I was wondering if anyone else felt this way.

Biologically everyone could say I am male, I look male...I hope. *stares at avatar for a second* My plumbing says I'm male. But I don't feel male. I don't even feel female for that fact of the matter.

I don't think of gender really. I just think of people. I'm attracted to both male and female, if we're talking biologically then they are male or female. But when I actually think about them, there gender doesn't come into play.

I can't say I'm bisexual only cause I don't think about gender at all. Just if the person is intellectuality stimulating and do I get along with them.

I considered that I am panromantic: romantic attraction towards person(s) of any gender or lack of gender.

Because the truth is all though I do have sex, that I don't think about sex all that often. Its very rare for me to actually feel a need to have sex or have a sexual urge. I don't desire sex very often. Its a very rare occurence. I don't even have an occasional sex, when I say rare I really mean rare. One of my mass complaints by woman, that I don't want sex enough.

I have always considered myself Asexual which can be both a lack of sexual attraction and sometimes referred as a lack of sexual orientation.

Is there anyone else who feels that there is no gender? Or that they don't have a gender?



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08 Apr 2011, 5:39 pm

That would describe me pretty well. I've never had sex, mainly because I'm afraid of it. If I were to have sex though, it would be with a woman, not a man.



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08 Apr 2011, 5:48 pm

Mindslave wrote:
That would describe me pretty well. I've never had sex, mainly because I'm afraid of it. If I were to have sex though, it would be with a woman, not a man.


Well I find myself falling for their brains over their bodies. So sometimes I forget about the bodies.

I know that's kind of creepy to say. But I do forget about bodies.

I think part of it has to do with the fact that when I think of emotion or feel emotion its very logical in a way.



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08 Apr 2011, 8:39 pm

YES. I do not like being female, but I certainly wouldn't want to be male, either. I'd be cool with being female without the reproductive system and all of its consequences. Oh, well. At least it's more 'normal' for me to be 5'5" as a woman...I'd be a short guy.



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08 Apr 2011, 11:58 pm

I don't get how a person feels like a gender either. I've thought about it, and I'm just not feeling it. :shrug: I easily accept that I'm a girl, and that's pretty much it there. However, I do have a sex drive that is getting less as I get older. Oh well.



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09 Apr 2011, 4:09 pm

Pandora_Box wrote:
Mindslave wrote:
That would describe me pretty well. I've never had sex, mainly because I'm afraid of it. If I were to have sex though, it would be with a woman, not a man.


Well I find myself falling for their brains over their bodies. So sometimes I forget about the bodies.

I know that's kind of creepy to say. But I do forget about bodies.

I think part of it has to do with the fact that when I think of emotion or feel emotion its very logical in a way.


Yeah, hot girls are a dime a dozen. But finding people with brains is a little bit tougher.



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09 Apr 2011, 4:26 pm

It seems to me like many people here feel similar. I can't say that I feel male (or female), as I'm not really sure what that means. But I'm definitely physically attracted to men. I don't think I could feel that way towards a woman no matter how much I liked her personality.



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09 Apr 2011, 7:33 pm

Over my lifetime my perception of my gender has changed. I've always accepted that I was physically male, but when I was young I felt quite feminine, secretly desired to be a housewife, and was attracted to men. Now I identify completely with the male role and although I am still primarily attracted to men, I am surprised to find myself noticing women more and more, and can picture myself in a companionship marriage with a female.



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12 Apr 2011, 11:30 am

I think it bears repeating: sex is not a binary state. Furthermore, sex is not limited to a person's anatomy.

The fundamental determiner of sex is genetics. A person with an XY genotype is genetically male. A personw with an XX genotype is genetically female. But that only account for somewhat over 99% of the population. There are plenty of people who are intersexed--some of the most frequent being Kleinfelter's syndrome (XXY) or Turner's Syndrome (X-)

In most cases a person's physiological sex is consistent with their genetic sex. XY's have male plumbing, XX's have female plumbing, XXY's have male plumbing, but many have feminized secondary sex characteristics (such as less or little facial hair, enlarged breasts and wider hips). Added to these are FTMs and MTFs--the people who have undergone sex reassignment surgery (transsexuals) either partially or completely.

Then comes sexual identity. A person might have an XY genotype and a perfectly male anatomy, but nonetheless that person self identifies as female.

Another layer is social sex. A person with an XX genotype, female anatomy and sexual identity may be socialized to take up a male social sex role, adopting the behaviours and social functions of the opposite sex.

On top of all of this comes sexual orientation. A person may have the genes, the body and the sexual orientation consistent with being a heterosexual male and have an inconsistent sexual identity.

All of which is to say that your sex is your own. You cannot change your genetics, but you can decide for yourself how you identify yourself and what's important.


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13 Apr 2011, 6:52 am

I identify primarily as genderqueer, because I don't feel like either gender really applies that well to me. Socially, I present as androgynous-female, use Ms, have a female first name, etc. I do this simply because I don't feel like I could cope with the stigma and social problems that come with it on top of those I already have to deal with from being trans and disabled.

Asexual here too. There are a fair few of us about WP, it seems.



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15 Apr 2011, 11:35 pm

I guess I am socially a woman, but I do not really see myself as having a gender. There are days I would rather not be seen as being any gender at all.

I'm also asexual, although I am not necessarily aromantic.

I have described myself as lesbian, although I am not really sure that fits.



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03 May 2011, 5:27 am

Genderqueer, here. I'm really both and none, and that's the way I live my life. I like both male and female aesthetics, but am asexual so don't really involve the genitals in anything. Ideally, I'd like my body to be as in-between as me, which is what I'm working on at the moment.



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03 May 2011, 9:35 pm

me too, I've never really felt like I am a gender. I don't really experience any kind of identity - race, nationality, even age - I spent 2 years studying identity on a sociology course so I have a good academic understanding of how other people do the identity thing, but never experience it myself. gender has no real personal meaning.

definitely not asexual though :lol:



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04 May 2011, 1:55 am

I've always felt more like an entity than a gender. I don't know another good word to use over "entity". I'm not asexual so as not being able to relate or fit within the "normal" range of behaviors for a female. Most of it I think was due to comfort issues while the other half is a mystery. I don't identify myself exactly having male or female interests but somewhat in between. I notice I relate better with males than I do females when it comes to sexuality, trouble is I'm straight so usually gay males are the only ones I feel most honest with. :lol:

Other than that, what does it mean to be exactly "male" or "female". To me they're just genders and nothing much more. I think society and culture put way too much emphasis on the way we're suppose to behave. Perhaps it's just that NTs naturally grasp this better than ourselves since in a way it is to some degree a social/cultural learned behavior.


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12 May 2011, 6:11 pm

Genetically, we can have an XX chromosome, an XY chromosome, XXY, X,...Those give us certain characteristics.

The problem I have with gender is that it blows these characteristics out of proportion. It assumes our personality, our intellect, and behaviors are determined by the sex chromosomes but in reality are determined in our other chromosomes that all genetic sexes share!

To be short, gender judges a whole person by only a part. When will we see that gender is a stereotype? Needless to say, I don't support gender.

I decided to choose the pronoun "he" to avoid trouble, as I feel closer to it, and I like to present a gender-neutral look. I cannot ignore I have double XX chromosomes but I am not "female". I am a person.