Ever felt digusted about your school

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Did your school ever treat you unfairly or bad acting like they didn't understand you or know what was going on but then find out they did know you had something wrong with you but they didn't care?

I remember as a kid how my school didn't seem to care about me so they kept punishing me and singling me out so I used to keep fighting to be normal get treated like everybody else.

When I was 15, I was snooping through my parents filing cabinet and reading my old IEP records and stuff from my school about me. I had no idea I had always been on the IEP and I thought it was something knew that year. But what I had found out was my school knew I was different and knew I had problems because they had all these labels placed on me; ADD, cluttering, dyspraxia, sensory processing disorder, language processing disorder and they were suspecting OCD and I still couldn't believe how they treated me. They also mentioned me as having poor social skills. I felt disgusted by it because they knew I had stuff wrong with me and they just didn't care. As my mom describes them, they were lazy because they didn't want to work with me or help me or accommodate me. They wanted to do it their way and find the easy way for them. So I guess it was easier for them to punish me for stuff I couldn't control or had a hard time controlling or when I couldn't figure stuff out so I guess they figured if they punish me for it, I would stop what I was doing to act normal. But all it did was it made me angrier and made me fight more so I kept breaking rules just like everyone else to be normal. I rebelled. I really did think then the rules had changed and it was allowed now because kids wouldn't follow them but I guess the school figured if they punished me, I will stop copying the other kids. But all it did was it made me fight more. Even my own mother couldn't get me to stop even though she tried explaining to me that kids know where the lines are drawn, they know when to break rules and when to stop and I just couldn't see that. But she always sided with me when she saw how other kids misbehaved and never got in trouble and they did it right in front of the teacher and they had a cow over me reading a book while all the other kids were throwing stuff and the staff said I was so disrespectful but yet they ignored what the other kids were doing.

I can relate to what you wrote. I was treated like dirt in school.

My MS and HS destroyed any chance I had of having a normal social life because of a stupid policy. I was never a morning person, and I often arrived at school up to 5 minutes late. According to the rules, Even if I made it to class, I would have to go to the attendance office, get a slip of paper saying I was late, and then go to class so the teacher could throw the note away. Apparently the teachers couldn't tell time?

Anyway, the result of this was nearly constant detention. At the beginning of MS, I'd been in two clubs. Of course, detention overrides that. I had to sit in the aud for about an hour after school and be quiet. Couldn't do homework, that would make too much sense. I didn't "learn my lesson" and it sure as hell didn't help me wake up and earlier.

Ultimately, I believe my protests were largely responsible for ending this policy at my HS. That, and a very reasonable principle. It was a good thing, but it was years too late to save my social life. Yes, I had an IEP, and yes I had extra time on my tests and all that rubbish, but I was left in the cold when it counted the most. The "learning disability" bits were compensated rigidly, but the school was completely ignorant of my true nature. While I understand the "needs of the many," I feel that the modern school system could be far better than it is, in almost every regard. Students should be treated as people, not statistics, and I fully believe we are capable of facilitating this.

Our school system is an old one, which has served countless generations, and every morning it leaves another body.

My middle school and high school experiences were horrible. It wasn't so much the school, but just the kids themselves. In middle school they teased me incessantly... In high school they just ignored me (I was thankful). Pretty much all the memories I have there are bad. I always relied heavily on my teachers for support and just studied as best I could. It really frustrated me in high school how some of my peers could balance being popular and a member of several clubs or sports teams and still outperformed me academically. I realize now that in those years I was having so much trouble dealing with emotions and meltdowns that it kept me from achieving academic honors.

Now I'm in college and on meds and while my social skills are still bad and I'm not involved in any extracurricular activities, I can at least beat them in the classroom.