Social Exhaustion

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Does anyone else get this? Like...just trying to be normal around people and act normally just gets tiring and wears you down? I just get so tired of putting up an act and mask to interact with people....I dunno. I just feel like a lot of times, I'm just living as an entirely different person and when I get back to being me, I just feel worn out. Does anyone else get this?

all the time.
a morning at work makes me want to hide for the rest of the day.

Yes all the time so in certain situations I just dont hide it anymore.

I'm hoping I can feel a bit better tonight hanging out with a friend...maybe getting out can help out. It's been months since I've been able to get out and hang with a friend and just be myself somewhere other than at my home.

Affirmative.

This happened to me the other day. I was getting inducted into the National Honor Society. There was a ceremony, which wore me out. I did well in the ceremony, and didn't really mess up (which took a lot of energy out of me, considering the size of the audience and the fact that I shook the mayor's hand). After the ceremony, there were refreshments, and people were pretty much doing whatever. So I had a couple of refreshments, then I left. But I realized that I forgot my coat. So I went into the auditorium to get it. In the auditorium was the mayor surrounded by other members of the NHS. Trying to find a way to get to my coat, I slowly approached them (I didn't know what they were talking about, but I later realized that they were talking about what colleges they wanted to go to). So then after one kid talked, the mayor pointed to me (meaning "What about you?"). Kind of overwhelmed and confused, I said "Excuse me, I just need to get my jacket". Everyone started giggling, and I tried to laugh it off to turn it into a joke... didn't work. So as I was walking by, the mayor gave me a "WTF" face. Then the dean jokingly told the mayor (feeling embarrassed for me) "He is a new member." On top of feeling worn out, I couldn't stop feeling terrible about this.

Not so much these days, as I don't get out much. But yeah, have definitely been there.

And it's not so much even acting normal as just not acting weird ("weird" meaning having lots of misunderstandings and/or negative attention).

This is one of my main symptoms. I can become very tired to the point where I almost fall asleep. I recover to normal energy levels when I'm alone again. I need to be alone when I want to get something done.

It happens to me even when I feel very comfortable around the people I'm with.

All that.

Also, as I get older, people trying to force big social events on me increasingly just makes me angry. If I politely turn down an invitation to participate in [insert social situation], it doesn't mean I want you to ask me pretty please and sell me on how great it's going to be. It just means I don't want to go. Not a tough concept to understand.

all the time

Yep. And im runing out of excuses.

Well, definitely feel refreshed today. Was nice to get out and hang out with my own people again...artists, musicians, "eccentrics". Also nice that I got random attention from some girl and we traded pins. She was cute...might talk to her later if I get over how badly I bombed talking to her...wasn't exactly balanced because there were a lot of variables including being in a new bar and my cell phone being dead and that's my life line for when my mind blanks on something that should otherwise be stupidly obvious to me. It was just the night I needed, in many ways...and the girl is friends with my friends I had gone out to see so hopefully we can cross paths again.

I spend my days teaching English to children. My days got longer a couple of months ago because I accepted a morning job. I'm not social at the best of times and spending my days giving attention to so many small people is exhausting. By Thursday I'm wishing the week was over and at the weekend I resent anybody who tries to intrude on my peace. I'm hoping I'll get used to the longer hours soon. To be honest, I thought I already would be.

It seems to be one of the things that's hardest to try and explain to people, the response is often "you just need to go out and have some fun, socialise a bit" and trying to say "no, that's the exact opposite of what I need right now" doesn't get through to them.

Yes, this happens to me very often. It's one of the main reasons why I am thinking about doing school online next year, not in a regular school setting. Other people are exhausting; I value both mental and physical solitude.