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04 May 2011, 1:09 pm

cowboydavey wrote:
Well I kind of gotten where I don’t expect to be invited. With my family I kind ask if we are doing anything special for holidays and birthdays. Now I belong to a couple of groups on Face Book and I will go to the group function. I always get that “Let’s get together sometime!” and when I try to it never comes together. So I just say in my mind “Okay, whatever!” Most people who find out we are Aspie, they don’t understand that we have feeling too. They are also afraid of the AS thing. When people ask “How come you weren’t at the party?” I say “Nobody ask me!” “I guess I am chopped liver to them?!” I have found guilt helps. I have made some new friends and they are on the upper IQ scale and I do get invited to some of their parties. With family sometimes you have to just say “Screw’em!”

i have come across some online meetup groups
but unfortunately too afarid to attend the meetups
usually im ignored, or called weird too quite etc
so i keep to myself rather then attend these meetups


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04 May 2011, 1:33 pm

Daryl_Blonder wrote:
cowboydavey wrote:

"Let's get together sometime"= nearly always completely insincere load of bull. It's almost like an NT code phrase for, "I'm not really that interested."

When someone says this and you call them afterward to make plans they almost never answer their phone, or call you back. I haven't bothered trying for years.

I don't think I've ever told someone this and not followed through and I don't understand why it's considered acceptable behavior, but if you call someone out on it they get awkward. It pisses me off so much, sometimes if I'm in a bad mood I like to f*ck with people when I run into them: "I thought we were going to get together?"

Unless someone gives you a specific time and date right then and there, never believe it.

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I agree with you.

Happens with me so often

Now i have stopped making plans and making a fool out of myself

Better to ignore people and only show interest when they are interested