Have you ever been punched before for a comment you made?

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Have you ever been punched or had drinks thrown at or spat at or hit or slapped for making a comment to them?


Fortunately I have never had this happen. Maybe because I am lucky I have not ran into those people or because I am shy so I don't say much to people unless I know them well enough or get comfortable with them. Then I was shocked to learn some people actually punch others when they get insulted or something so that is why people are jerks online because you can't punch them for things they say. To me that is just them being cowards because they can't say it in real life due to the worst consequences so they do it behind the screen where they can't get punched or have drinks thrown at them, etc.

Then I read another thread here in the parents board that her aspie son said to a boy "hey acne face" and she heard from that boy if her son were his age, he'd deck him. I assume "deck" is a term for punch. So it made me wonder how many of us have been decked or had drinks thrown at us or food, etc. for comments we'd make. If this has happened to you, did you learn anything from it like you shouldn't say that to people or tell them about something because it can make them mad?

I have...but the comments I made were very deliberate and vindictive....and it was my brother.

I meant unintentional.

I've been known to throw food at my ex-bf (hmmm, could that maybe be a clue as to why he's an ex...?) but I've never had stuff thrown at me, I don't think.

Yes. Although not a full punch, but still a palpable hit.

I was playing a roleplaying game with a couple of people and one of them was playing an Australian character and said "G'day, mate" to a male character being portrayed by his girlfriend (who was the game master) and I started repeating it back and he hit me. He thought I was saying "G'day, mate" to his girlfriend, and thus to his mind calling her a man.

This is the same guy who, when we were playing Dungeons & Dragons (before this particular thing happened), decided his character was going to attack my character because I was stimming and he interpreted that as "in-character" and "I am preparing to cast a spell to attack him." I do not even know what this guy's damage was, or why I hung around those two for as long as I did.

So yeah,

a) I didn't know how to identify people who were less toxic than my father as still toxic

b) I am a nerd

Just so it's all clear.

Yup. I had a roommate who had a very short temper. Once, we were playing a football video game and he scored a touchdown and said something like "who was that who just scored on you?" and I said jokingly "your mother". He didn't take it as a joke and attacked me punching me several times before I could hit him back and get away. I moved out after that.

Rarely. I do remember when I was in 6th grade, a group of girls were throwing spitballs at me in science class. I told my teacher who, for once caught them red handed and gave them detention. Later that day, one of the girls went up to me after school and slapped me in my face for being a tattletale.

No but I got punched in the nose REAL hard in a street fight. I was all "Uggggh" holding my nose and writhing around.

My lack of social skills usually caused peers to abuse me with words or with exclusion (Ewww, you freak, don't sit with ME!) as opposed to fists. I have had classmates trip me in the hallways, throw things at me, poke me with objects such as straightened-out coat hangers, and follow me home while hitting me from behind, but it was usually words that they chose as weapons.

Every now and then I was challenged to a fight, and when I didn't want to, taunted with "You're just chicken, 'cause you know I'll kick your @$$." But I think that happens to all children.

There also seemed to be a solid double standard going on, whereby someone else can put me down and call it "just teasing, what's the matter, can't you take a joke?" Yet if I were the one to make a "joke" at someone else, it was "a mean, cruel, vicious thing to say, and no wonder nobody likes you!"

Any physical abuse was usually at the hands (no pun intended) of my own mother. I'd say something she disapproved of, or be too slow and timid (no wonder!) and *slap!*

Anyone ever read this book; http://www.amazon.com/Please-Stop-Laugh ... 534&sr=8-1 ?

The author, Jodee Blanco was physically abused by her peers from fifth grade through high school. Her school experience made mine look like a cake walk.

You think she had it bad? In the seedier parts of America, vicious gang violence is a fact of life from the age of three and up!

You think they have it bad? In the seedier parts of Mexico, lethal gang violence is a fact of life from birth!

You think they have it bad? In most of Somalia, the gangs are the only kind of government you'll ever see!

You think they have it bad? In southeast Asia some children are literally shackled into slave labor at textile mills, their injuries seared shut with hot irons so they can get back to work faster!

You think they have it bad? Children were victims of the Holocaust!

The level of suffering you'd have to endure before you've really got the worst of it is absurd. This doesn't mean that the suffering of 6.8 billion people counts for nothing because only a small handful of them are the ones who have it worse than everyone else. A lot of us suffered for no reason. No one gained anything from it, certainly no one gained enough to justify what happened to us. The fact that other people have suffered much worse doesn't mean that what happened to us doesn't matter.

I thought Chamomile was responding to AllieKat's comment about Jodee Blanco having it so much worse than her that her own school experience looked like a cakewalk.

I saw the point as:

Yeah, Verdandi's got it.

Okay. Sorry.