Anyone else just feel like giving up?

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Raindance
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15 May 2011, 1:19 pm

sometimes i feel like giving up and forgetting about meeting someone. Sometimes its not worth the effort of thought, but again i cant stop thinking about it. I wish i could just stop thinking about a certain person, because i know its hopeless, but does any one else ever think thats its totally pointless to actually like someone? Maybe rejection has eventually taken its toll, and you just have to admit your unnatractive and just live with it.

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15 May 2011, 1:40 pm

There is someone like that, and I'm at my happiest when I accept the fact that me and her don't work. Most everybody has that one person, but for me she is a barometer of my mental health. The less I think about her, the happier I am.

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15 May 2011, 1:43 pm

For me, It usually takes some time to meet the right person. Is all about patience. And maybe you haven't noticed but um...

...there's a website in here where you can actually meet someone called www.aspieaffection.com.

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15 May 2011, 1:51 pm

Aspie Affection is a broken site that's rarely used. I wouldn't bother with it if I were you. >.<

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15 May 2011, 2:28 pm

Raindance wrote:

Took the words out of my mouth (well fingers at least)

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15 May 2011, 2:37 pm

Same here no one seems to want to associate with a person on the spectrum an it seems even others on the spectrum and the fact that I am TOFU-too old,fat,ugly-doesnt make it easier :-(

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15 May 2011, 4:54 pm

Oh constantly, constantly. I spent a good four years (20-24) resigned to the fact I just was not in the running at all and trying to live a celibate life happily.

I hate how life just beats you around without a care for how you feel because it doesn't feel anything. It's insensate.

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15 May 2011, 6:23 pm

I havent so much given up, as gotten other things to do. And I will occupy myself with them.

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15 May 2011, 7:56 pm

I spent 6 years actively trying to find someone & I had lots of problems as a result. I ruined lots of friendships with women by asking for more. I'm a hell of a lot better off not trying. I'm NOT saying I'm completely given up but I'm not actively trying anymore

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Raindance
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16 May 2011, 3:17 am

zen_mistress wrote:

I havent so much given up, as gotten other things to do. And I will occupy myself with them.

I think this is the way to be actually. I think its important to have other things in life to concentrate on, and be happy with.

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16 May 2011, 3:43 am

I'm starting to think I'm just 'unloveable', ie: no one could ever love me. That I should never, under any circumstances, have a partner. I feel like that part of life will just not happen for me. I will be turning 29 this August, and I have never had a girlfriend in my life. I'd just be kidding myself if I thought one was going to manifest out of thin air now.

The point is, what am I going to do with my life if I never have a family? I have to occupy myself in some other way, find some other kind of meaning. Bury myself in work, perhaps? If intimacy is out of the question, maybe a pet?

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17 May 2011, 11:39 am

Adam82 wrote:

Pets are great actually. I have horses and a dog, whome i would probably choose over most guys anyway. Maybe i should just be content with living a life surounded by my pets who wont leave me, or cheat on me, or try to change me.

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17 May 2011, 9:00 pm

Raindance wrote:

Adam82 wrote:

Pets cannot comfort you after a horrible day like humans can. Pets cannot have conversations with you, cannot be intimate with you, cannot have children with you, cannot enjoy (human)things with you, and basically all the other things humans do with each other in a relationship. I love the hell out of my cats but they cannot take the place of the human relationship that I long for.

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