purchase wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
Mindslave wrote:
It depends on what you want. If you really want to date a girl, on the first date you have to pay for the whole thing. Why? Because the penis goes into the vagina. That's why men need to take the initiative.
That just... defies all logic.
Going Dutch is how I prefer things to be. It's kind of insulting to have guys presume that I can't pay for my own meal and that I need to be taken care of.
I'm with Who_Am_I. I'd like to see your thought process here diagrammed out, Mindslave. That would be an interesting diagram.
Well, my thought process goes like this. The whole point of dating and courtship is the lead up to mating. Dating itself is a societal construct. Mating is a biological construct. Attraction is also biological. Women simply cannot be attracted to girly men any more than men can be attracted to super aggressive bodybuilding women. Now sure, there are women who like super quiet, dorky guys and men who like super aggressive women, but it's usually a fantasy that doesn't translate well into reality.
Now, this isn't to say that the guy always has to pay. That assumes that all women and all men are the same. Even so, just like the importance of fundamentals in tennis or other activities, the basic fundamental is that the guy makes the first move, because the girl is going to react to it. Girls are more reactive than guys are. This is why guys aren't as grossed out by fart jokes. So at the end of the day, the answer to the bill question depends on who is dating, just like any other situation. The best way to do things is the way you would do it. If your first instinct is to Dutch the bill, then that's what should be done. Don't tell your gut what to do, your gut should tell you what to do. Personally, when I see a girl that wants me to pay for everything, I also see a girl that needs diapers. I prefer paying on the first date just to send the message of "I've got your back" and then after that, she can pay for everything