Whom do you find it easier to talk to

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People of your gender or people not of your gender? I read somewhere that Aspies prefer the opposite gender (so Aspie boys prefer to talk to girls and vice versa), but from talking to some Aspies I found out that the converse is also prevalent, so I decided to make a poll about it.

I don't care whether the person I'm talking to is a male or female; they only need share my interests.

I find it easy to talk to people of both genders.

"Whom" is the wrong word. Using it may make the user feel "intellectual" (for lack of a better word)... but, in fact, misusing it makes you sound the complete opposite.

In this case, it's "who", as it is the subject.

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But I digress.
I'm okay with talking with both genders.

I'm not trying to sound smart. I'm pretty sure it is the object, as the correct answer is "I find it easier to talk to him/her" and not "I find it easier to talk to he/she"

In the past (well, a long time ago), it was easier to communicate with people of the same sex, though now it is in neither gender's favour.

It doesn't really matter. I find it easier to talk to adults than people of my own age, though.

I assume you meant "sex" rather than "gender," since you didn't include an option for androgynes.

Guys suck, girls rule. That's pretty much how it is to me.

neither, really. it depends on the individual personality

I used to prefer females, but now I am not sure.

Oh, snap!

This.

I have always been more comfortable around women. I'm not sure why. My youth group was all women, except for myself, and I never really took notice until people pointed it out. One reason why is that I can't relate to the typical masculine banter of males, at all. It's banal, the same everywhere I go. Talking about sex, computers, engines, drinking, injuries, near-injuries, and whatnot. Women seem to explore more, and be open to intellectual discussion generally, more understanding of cognitive differences, as well easier to understand emotionally, or at least more at ease...

Because of the "Aspie" a-sexuality, my family (brother mostly) thought for the longest time that I might be 'gay' because I had no girlfriends until age 19, or obvious commentary about the attractiveness of women. I apparently did not display the correct sequence of behavior, and as a result, a lot of people had begun to suspect I was gay. I suppose this goes to show you how being oblivious to NT roles / expectations can give wrong impressions. It's really that there was so much else out there that was simply more interesting - and the attraction to women I felt was often of an intellectual nature I suppose.

Apparently most NT males would never admit this sort of thing; they feel strongly about their gender roles in society. I have also never understood this whole defense of gender roles guys are so adamant about -- "I'm not gay!! !" and so on. It seems like if you know you are, or are not, that's the end of it. Security is gender is just a matter of self-evident fact. No need to 'prove' it to others in behavior.

This conversation cannot be had with any NT male. They squirm, and avoid it, wonder why I would even bring it up. I have learned this the difficult way.

I find it easier to talk to people of the same gender.

I totally agree, but I am female...but I am also bisexual. So those who suspected that I was gay, probably saw the handwriting on the wall before I did. I do know that extreeme homophobic people are that way cause somewhere within themselves, they are secretly afraid they are gay

I undersatnd the whole aspie asexuality thing though. I tell people that I am bisexual but I am celebate too, and they tell me that is impossible, but to me it is not. I am attracted to people of both genders, but that does not mean that I would want to have sex with them because of sensory issues among other things.

I tend to favor woman more than men for obvious reasons, unless the man is highly intelegent and open minded...which doesnt happen much in my area. Typical men are weird to me, they have this whole lauguage beneath the typical male macho banter that is mostly spoken with body language and extreeme subleties. But most of its context is about power and sex, and defending their own. Yes I find men to be the main enforcers of traditional gender roles, of course, why would they want it any other way because the traditional gender roles blatently favor men and states that women are domestic servants with benefits. However there is always a few guys that shy from the herd who I can comfortably talk to. But most women are easier to relate to for me and are more compassionate towards differences. One of my friends says I am a femi-nazi. I dont think so, but she is muslim, so I guess from her perspective, it may seem that way to her.

I don't have a preference.