Rages or Anger Anyone?

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I get extremely pissed very easily but I am usually, in fact expected to be the most layed back person in the group. That is because I repress most everything, I have always done it, no one actually knows I do it. It's hard not to repress every emotion that comes across but when something like anger finds it's way out, it's so powerful and bottled up that I don't know what to do with it. I'm trying not to repress anymore, apparently it's bad for a persons health, I didn't know that!

Hey catlover02, I am a lot like you, seriously I know how it is. You don't want to brake any more of your stuff I'm sure so here's some of the things I do for my managing my anger, kinda different kinds of techniques but whatever I'm Aspie, can't get much more different lol. Listen to some angry songs that kind of match your level so you can justify your anger with yourself and listening to music gets you to sit down so that you can think about why your angry or what brought it on. Another is try to achieve minimal contact with whatever brings on the anger (it's family for me, so I spend a lot of time in my room). Depending on the severity, you can try to transition that intensity into a passion, whatever it be that floats your boat. You would probably have a lot more luck looking up traditional anger management techniques haha

I am very easily angered at home and end up shouting at everyone that enters my path.
But my brother has definite anger management problems, he goes into blind rages where he beats people up or tries to, trashes his room, screams and says scary or dramatic things like he "wants to die". The next minute he's all sensitive and sweet, there are two sides to him.
He is 11 so still small enough to restrain when he goes to hit someone, but puberty is already setting in and before long his strength will go right up along with his height and he will end up seriously hurting someone. My mum's trying to get anger management classes for him with CAMHS but so far they haven't gotten very far, he has had an interview though.

MONKEY I would try giving your brother 5-HTP (it's not prescription) it restores your serotonin levels so that you can get your depression or anger under some kind of control, give it at least a week (2 in the morning 2 at night) to kick it, it really does help. I take 5-HTP for my depression and now it's not so severe.

Yes, I have had issues with anger/rage since I was around 11 years old.
It usually comes from something triggering a lot of emotion I cannot express verbally or do anything with, and my analysing and trying to intellectually work it all out.
I throw things and end up with holes in walls, glass everywhere and sometimes bruises on my own person.
I have yet to find a solution, and the person I spend a lot of time with is quite bothered by it when he comes round and sees the damage, not understanding why I would smash my own flat up.

I do have anger. Sometimes it is difficult to keep it contained.

I raged again today and me and my gf started pushing each other. I kinda wanted her to hit me because I hate myself so much at the moment that I just dont know, I feel like I deserve to be hit and so on, keep up that old tradition if you like. Funny how someone can get bullied so much that they start to believe they are worthless and just a piece of turd really. I am thinking that all those people who pick on me, go to hit me, shout and bully me all throughout my life cant have all been wronga bout me can they. They must see something in me I guess that makes them feel I deserve it. Now my gf has come along and says she loves me and trusts me and cares for me I just cant accept it very easily. The only time people usually want to know me is when they can get money or things out of me or free tattoos from me.

It's so hard, I know I'm angry at all these people who take me for a ride and use me too, but I am too soft where they are concerned and just let it all out at home and between me and my gf and it's not fair on her anymore. I feel so terribly guilty about today on top of everything else and I just feel like running away all the time. I cannot work out why she says she loves me so much and why she says I'm not bad or messed up etc. I dont get it, I'm not good at understand other people alot of the time as it is, and I'm finding things so hard latley, I dont know what to do.

I had ago at my Mother recently for something she did in the past with on e of her ex boyfriends when I was smaller, they made me cry by teasing me for the way I am, they tormented me over and over until I cried my heart out and then they got a camera out and started taking photographs of me, laughing as they did so. I can get over the boyfriend doing it because Mam chose so many men that were bad and it wasn't her fault, but when she was there laughing at a child, at me, suffering and begging them to leave me alone and she was laughing at me it hurts. She always makes out she is blameless. I called her up a short time ago because I was alone and had really bad chest pains and she shouted at me down the fone and slammed it down on me.

I was only scared, I wanted her to re-assure me, but I should have known how it would be, it's my own fault but I told her by text that I would stop waiting for an apology for what her and her boyfriend did to me when I was younger and how it hurt me so badly. The text wasn't nasty, nor did I swear or call names, I told her she knows the difference between right and wrong and for that she has now dis-owned me yet again.

Maybe her doing that has kinda made me feel worse lately I dont know, but I know I've been feeling very low and down about lots of things, I'm not sleeping and waiting to see a TS specialist because of how I am at night keeps me and my gf awake too so we are both groggy and of course when I dont sleep I have lots of nasty things happen to me like falling down with low blood sugars and feeling like 'm not there, or blanking out for very split seconds.

Typing this has helped. I mean no wonder I am stressed out, I still want to run away though instead of keep loosing my temper at my gf, it's not her fault at all and I love her to pieces I really do. I just want to take her away from where I am and go where none of my lot can ever find me again. I know it sounds bad, because then I feel guilty incase anything happens to my Mam again then, although at times I'm pretty sure she'd like it if something bad happened to her while she had disowned me, just so it would hurt me more. Is that wrong or bad?

My rages are usually self-destructive, which is better than hurting someone else. They've been decreasing in frequency steadily, I think I'm mellowing out as I age.

Actually just within the last couple of years I seem to have became more prone to rages of anger......and it actually kind of freaks me out because when it happens Its very hard to control.usually I can go outside and kick a tree or hit something or find some way not to damage anything or anyone else. But yeah I usually tend to internalize things so I am not very used to that.

I used to have rages quite often. Whenever I get like that now, I like to work out. I don't yell anymore and I'm sure that my neighbours appreciate me a lot more.

It's a miracle I have not ended up in prison with my sometimes violent outbursts. I have gotten into fights where I have the hit guy so many times in the head I could not close my fist the next day. When I was in high school I got a growth spurt that made me larger than the bullies who picked on me. One of the guys who picked on me was half my size but still thought he could insult me without fear of an ass beating. So I challenged him to a fight after school across the street at a McDonalds. He left school with me so we fought I beat the living crap out of him. I left him on the ground when I walked away I called him a p#ssy so he said to me "Your still a ret*d" It cause me to explode with rage so I kicked him as hard as I could in his eye with steel toe boots on. I broke his orbital socket.

His mother tried to have me arrested but the police told her since he left the school with me so we were mutual combatants so they would also have to arrest her kid. She sued my parents for the medical bills her son ended up with. We brought school documentation as proof that her son had harrassed me for being in special education from 7th grade to 11th grade. Over the years of harrassment he also broke one of my fingers and threw me down a flight of stairs resulting in my staying over night at the hospital do to a bump on my head we also brought a teacher who was willing to testify that the kid was a major bully who hurt quite a few students. The judge told the bully's mother she was a bad parent for not stopping him from harrassing me and other students her son deserved the assault he hoped he learned from it. We did not have to pay his bills.

Oh yes my temper gets the better of me quite often

I don't know what I tend to get angry at, a lot of the time it just comes unexpectedly. I do get very easily annoyed though. Sometimes I do yell but most of the time I hold it in and don't say anything and then it comes out in my behavior. I think because I used to get in trouble and yelled at when I was younger for getting angry that now I don't know how to handle it or express it because I had to hide it all the time from my Mother or I would get in major trouble.