I used to say that sex has nothing to do with love.

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18 Jun 2011, 5:05 am

Was i right or at least in parts?

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18 Jun 2011, 5:17 am

It depends on you...(e.g.If you allow yourself to fell in love after sex..).

I think it has something to do with love. But if with prostitutes or it is not wise to fall in love under some certain circumstances, we can force ourselves not to fall in love....

And it also depends on how much pleasure you have felt during it. If it was a bad experience, obviously it has nothing to do with love. But we would like to fall in love if it was a good experience.

In my opinion, sex itself is about showing your privacy to the person who you have sex with. We love our privacy, therefore, we want to find somebody who is worth us to share our privacy with. Thus love comes.

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18 Jun 2011, 5:21 am

Yeah,sex can be made out of love.But isn't also lustful sex,which has nothing to do with love?/like in porn.Humans as objects or flesh worship and not real love.Or is it always love?Am i right,at least in some things?Sex can be an expression of love and also can be just lustful physical pleasure without real love but animalistic?

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18 Jun 2011, 5:26 am

JohnyJohn wrote:

Let's discuss, please. Your doubt is exactly the same one to mine. http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt163646.html Here is my post on this point. Many people have been discuss it with me but we haven't find any real answers about it yet. Please read it and see if you have any ideas. Thank you.

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18 Jun 2011, 5:42 am

There is not just sex. There is also good sex, bad sex, great sex, etc.

Being in love generally makes sex better.

People who are not in love can still have great sex but if those two people were in love it would probably be even better.

Porn sex rarely looks like anything better than mediocre or maybe OK sex.

You don't have to be in love to have great sex but it helps.

It's also going to be better if you know what you are doing.

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18 Jun 2011, 5:44 am

BigK wrote:

My point is,sex many time is not a form of love,but just lust.Physical pleasure only,objectification.

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18 Jun 2011, 6:13 am

JohnyJohn wrote:

BigK wrote:

My point is,sex many time is not a form of love,but just lust.Physical pleasure only,objectification.

Hmm. This is complicated.

You are right. It does not have to be a form of love.

But. Good sex is more than just physical pleasure even if there is no actual love.

If you were to rate it on a scale of 1-10 then purely physical would rate 5 or less IMO.

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18 Jun 2011, 7:30 am

Sex can be just about sex but it can also be about love. There are some people who can't enjoy sex without love being part of it and there are some who feel no link between the two at all, also there are people at various points between the two.

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18 Jun 2011, 10:28 am

I find sex and love are often seperate, people have sex with people they don't know well or are only casually dating, there's also FWB, prostitutes etc. You can also love someone without ever having sex with them.
But merging love and sex is always nice. :thumleft: There is always heaps and heaps of affection behind it.

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18 Jun 2011, 11:12 am

I see sex as a recreational activity: no love required. Like any other recreational activity, it's probably better to do it with someone you love, but that's not a requirement.

Of course, my opinion on the matter is purely theoretical.

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19 Jun 2011, 8:18 am

Sex has something to do with love in the same way dance has something to do with love. It's not a difference in kind, but possibly in intensity. And the intensity varies, so whatever.

Edit: Don't couples dance anymore?

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19 Jun 2011, 8:22 am

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19 Jun 2011, 11:01 am

Sex and love are not inherently linked.

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19 Jun 2011, 1:53 pm

For some people it does and for others it doesn't. For me it does. I couldn't even get an erection for someone I don't love deeply and romantically. I also have to be in the mood for sex, which rarely happens. I'm just like that. Whereas there are people who can very easily have sex with some random man or woman they find in some random location without needing or feeling any loving connection. People vary in their needs.

Just my opinion.

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19 Jun 2011, 2:18 pm

Jonsi wrote:

I couldn't even get an erection for someone I don't love deeply and romantically.

if you aren't in love, do you become impotent?

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19 Jun 2011, 3:20 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

Sex and love are not inherently linked.

Unfortunately. If they were linked, it would make life too easy on us. So instead I have to debate if he actually loves me or is just pretending to get sex? >.<

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