Even for an Aspie, I am so socially inept. Never had a GF

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Not once. And I'm nearly 29! I am convinced there's something seriously wrong with me. I am a Masters graduate, and I'm currently a full time English teacher, but I've never had a relationship of any kind, with a female. I want a long term relationship, and I would actually like kids one day. But as I get older, I become more and more disillusioned that it will never happen. I have liked a few girls in my time. But it has never been reciprocated. The latest one is a friend, but she's with another guy, so there's nothing I can do.

Are there any late bloomer Aspies here, or even married ones, that can give me some ounce of hope? Because I see all these teenagers and early 20s Aspies on here saying they've had b/gfs, which makes me feel very behind and inadequate.

Thanks
Adam

Have you ever considered online dating before?

Try online dating, get into some hobbies that might attract the kind of girl you like (eg Get a puppy, it's amazing how well i've seen this done), and most importantly, learn how to make her laugh, but not with traditional jokes, just by slipping in snarky little comments into conversation. My rule of thumb for flirting is to poke fun and make them laugh at the same time *Disclaimer: Don't do this for first impressions, for first impressions, just try making them laugh.
If you make her laugh, she'll remember you.

Have you ever thought about the mail-order bride thing OP It may be better to skip the typical dating scene sense that is not working for you. I would totally do it if I had the money & skills to travel to another country because it is impossible for me to get a date so I think it's better to find a way around that step

I feel exactly the same way. Women are almost never interested in me and especially the pretty and hot ladies. It seems like they just don't feel any attraction to me.

Everytime there is a hot lady I want to ask out, she either already has a boyfriend, is just not interested in me and politely tells me to get lost or just comes up with another excuse not to date me.

Maybe it's because they don't like my personality or maybe it is my bad karma getting back at me. Or maybe God simply doesn't want me to have a girlfriend. I don't know really.

a teacher who wants kids? id tap that

Well I would give you the same advice I give to women who say this to me. Aim to increase your social circle, male and female. As soon as you start thinking of girls as friends, not fodder for dating, as crass as that sounds, you'll find them everywhere. The best relationships blossom out of friendships, imo. When you chat to girls about life, they get to see the real you, and I gurantee someone will fall for that.

Oh and re the divorcee mother thing? It's best not to think in black and white terms of what you do and don't want too much, you could miss out on some great women that way!

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Everyone gets rejected. Try to figure out why the rejections occur. Improve your approach for the next time. Usually it's best to ask someone out lightly. Don't be deadly serious and intense about it. Shrug it off and make a joke if they aren't interested.

Over time you should be able to figure out some of your own errors. And there will be errors. I can't say what they might be.

I'm in the same situation as the OP except that I have tried online dating. Hasn't worked. I only have a couple of old pics of myself and they aren't incredibly flattering so I don't get anyone sending me emails and no one replies to my communications so that's been a bust.