Unwanted Messages

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I am a parent of an asperger/high functioning autistic child (we have had two separate diagnoses) who joined this form so I can post on the parents forum.

When checking my inboxes I see I have received two messages from persons supposedly expressing an interest in me; the form of the messages are a little formulaic and I suspect persons preying on persons with aspergers who do not perhaps necessarily have the anti-scam antennae of neurotypicals.

Not sure if this has been raised before, but I think it is something the moderators might wish to consider.

Ok - have just looked further and note that there is a sticky regarding this problem.

I have had the same problem. I responded to the first one to politely tell them I wasn't interested, and that they shouldn't be trying to find romance in such an unsafe way, but they keep contacting me again. I will never do online dating because that is a stupid and dangerous way to "meet" someone for romance. I think the site needs a rule about this:

"No unsolicited date mail contacts."

Any one violating that rule should be kicked off the site. This should help. What bothers me even more is that the person involved has continued to send me these messages, in spite of the fact that I politely told them I wasn't interested, and that I didn't want them contacting me again. I even found one in my site mailbox earlier today, and just deleted it without reading it. I think if it happens again I will make a complaint post with their contact info on it, to expose them, and warn people against this person.

I hope you don't get any more of these creepy things. It does seem like they are someone who is up to no good. Fortunately, I am not very gullible. Good luck with your kid's situation.

Don't mess with these scammers. When you get such a PM post a copy of it immediately in the moderator attention thread including their member name and we will ban them. Never reply to them! We ban several such scammers every day. From what I gather most aren't even human! They are just automated bots that send the same scams to lots of members before someone finally bothers to tell us moderators the member name the bot is running under so we can stop it!

If you reply by email to them you will be spammed to death! If you reply by PM to them it will generally go unread. In fact by the time most members send them a nasty reply they are banned anyway so even if there was a human being at the end of it they couldn't read your reply anyway.

If you are gullible enough to get involved with these so called PM love scammers you will start getting emails pretending to be interested in a romance with you; then they will progress into disclosing they have financial problems and want you to send them money, or they will pretend to want your help getting money out of their country. There are various scams. However, the bottom line of all of them is they want to steal your money.

wouldn't a decent captcha help with this situation? even a captcha for each pm and reply would be better than someone getting scammed imho.

Captchas are a pain in the butt. I hate them; mainly because I get them wrong so often! I think it would make more sense to tie PMs to the same logic as URLs. New members can't include any links in posts until they've made around ten posts. In my opinion the same restriction should apply to PMs. However, only Alex could make such a change.