Too many demons

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I am going through a major funk right now, for the following reasons:

1. I had a job that I really, really enjoyed, only to be laid off two weeks later. I haven't had so much as an interview since, despite applying to literally hundreds of jobs.

2. I am deeply struggling to come to terms with the woman I had pursued for several years marrying someone else (under questionable pretenses), after I made every possible sacrifice for her.

3. I worry that people think I am some sort of hatemonger if I don't condemn Republicans (especially Tea Party people) and Christians strongly enough (despite me being a Christian myself).

4. I worry that I will never be able to afford the life I want, unless I win the lottery or marry someone for her money.

I don't know what to do.

I'm sorry you're going through this. trust me, I know what it's like to feel lost in the world.

1) All I can tell you to do is keep trying. Somebody will call.

2) I wish I could help you with this, but I wouldn't know where to begin. All i can tell you is that if she didn't recognize what she had right under her nose, maybe she isn't worth the trouble.

3) It's even worse for me: I AM a Republican and a Christian. So I never get invited to the cool parties anymore. I'm not a hatemonger, whatever anyone says.

4) Honestly, don't worry about this. Once you get a steady income you can depend on, whatever it is, you'll adjust to whatever pleasures in life you can afford. Really. Poor people CAN be happy.

This shall pass my friend. There will be other jobs out there. Sometimes ( most of the time) a job is what we do to put a little money in our pocket, food on the table, and a little fun on Friday night; nothing more. Don't let your job define who you are and you'll be happier at work.

If this woman couldn't see you for the good man you seem to be, that's her loss. You'll find someone who will appreciate who you are. I was in the same boat as you in the mid-1980s and now I've been happily married for 22 years.

The money issue will always be with you. Even if you were rich, you'd still be thinking about a bigger house, a faster car, a twin engine aircraft instead of a single. That's human nature. Are your basic needs being met? Did you have something to eat today? Do you have access to clean water? That's a lot more than most of the people on this planet. By comparison, a man with a computer and a roof over his head lives like a king by comparison. Enjoy the luxury mate!

I've found helping in charity like a church food pantry helps me appreciate my own humble, little station in life.

PS: I'm a fairly conservative white dude who relies on his Christian faith when the going gets rough. Nobody thinks I'm cool either!

Life may not be the best at this moment, but always remember the The sun will rise again and the dew on the grass will sparkle and glimmer in its simple ways, a simple blade of grass, nothing more, nothing less, yet it still finds a reason to sparkle and glimmer in all its beauty. Always remember that your life may not be going well, and you may not have the best of everything, but you are alive , and every morning when the sun rises, you should laugh, smile, and glimmer just like the grass, for life is a wonderful thing even if it doesnt always go the way you want, live it for the moment. just think of something you would have fun doing, and go do it! , is there anything that you havent done for a while you used to enjoy, or maybe a book you never had the time to finish or maybe there are some old family photos of those precious childhood moments that never quite made it into an album you could stick in somewhere, the best thing to do is to always keep moving, and keep on living. Just do anything to bring a smile to your face or a chuckle or two, for the sun will keep on rising, and youll want to rise up with it feeling great I know life seems hard right now, but you should keep your mind open to all the wonderful opportunities in life, and pray that they shall come to you in the near future, and if you pray hard enough, and you do your best to live life to the fullest every moment you get, then im sure youll come out in the end succesful and happy

She saw me as being "weak", "not having direction", and being "unable to communicate" because I didn't do things exactly the way she did. Apparently, she never asks for advice, never needs emotional support, and never listens to the advice of others. And anyone who does is weak, unmotivated, etc. But she insists in an actual relationship, yet relationships are mostly emotions, and listening to others.

Religionwise, I am a Lutheran, and we are among the most tolerant and inclusive of Christian sects. Politically, I have a rather complex view of things, and thus no longer affiliated with an actual political party.

As far as the lifestyle thing, I am seeking to design a house with contemporary architecture, and contemporary art/furniture. If you have ever read, or are familiar with Dwell magazine, you would have an idea of what I'm talking about.




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I have worries about money as well. You're not the only one.

Id write a long reply but it would be ignored like everything else that I have written on this site. It appears that this site is for those Aspies under 30, so I should find another Asperger friendly site for adults were not diagnosed until much later in life. I cannot work because of depression and anxiety and I am also passable TG. I didn't even know that aspergers syndrome existed until I was 45 and it was only after a online friend was is an Aspie gave me a link to the AQ quiz posted on Wired. I scored 30 that first time that I took the quiz. I don't have a home of my own and I am forced to live with someone who was abusive in the past or live on the streets.

I have been abused by family, teachers, a priest, classmates, and people who I thought were my friends. I trusted my Drs/therapists but they have all let me down.

Can anyone please point me to an adult-friendly Aspie forum and I'll be going.

@typing-with-mittens: The In-Depth Adult Life Discussion subforum here is specifically for the older-than-30 set, but there are plenty of people here in the other subforums who are also over 30.

If you start your own thread here in the Haven, people will almost certainly respond to it (they might not want to as much in this thread, for fear of hijacking it). BTW, I like your username, it's pretty clever.

She had emotional issues she wasn't dealing with (especially trust issues--she expects a guy to get everything right the first time regarding her rules, if not, they are trying to throw her off and deceive her). She thinks that asking for advice (even once) = can't communicate = bottles up emotions = potentially abusive.

That is definitely not true, but there was no way to convince her that. And because of that, I have to pretend to be either a hippie or hipster to find people who like the things I like.

As for politics/religion, it doesn't matter to those people what denomination you are. To them, all Christians are intolerant. Politically, I am no longer affiliated with any political party, and even I find my own political views rather complex. Yet people are considered intolerant if their beliefs are anything other than ultra-liberal (even if they're not considered "conservative").

Have you thought of starting your own buisness or just putting an ad online in craiglist or something for odd jobs, maid service etc.
post signs in retirement comunities and doctor offices. Those with mobility problems easily become regulars, then you have an income till you find a job

as far as the woman goes, some women are like that and are abusive. Female verbal/emotional abusers are different than male verbal/emotional abusers. look it up online it might make stuff make more sense.

For the records, I have no problems with people who are liberal, or hippies, or hipsters, or anything like that. My issue is with people who make brash assumptions about people outside of their cliques.

Expecting a relationship where everything is orderly and predictable, with no change or uncertainty, or burdens or inconveniences, is ridiculous beyond belief. And isn't the whole point of asking for relationship advice so someone can be a better communicator?

Also, I cut ties with the Republican Party because people like Rick Perry and Michelle Bachmann have ruined its reputation. I wouldn't know what to do if our only choices are those two and Obama.