Unspoken Rules

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In dating(and life) There are so many unspoken rules and they are always our down fall, here would be a place we post rules we larened the hard way or ask about rules we might not uder stand.

wait three days to call after a date no matter how well it went.(I really thought this was a joke)

No only means No if said on the 2ed time (mor ehten one girl has said this to me)

You can pick I dont almost always means you know the place I want.

what I dont know is text rules,known this girl for weeks nad had an epic date last night but sadly she had a trip this weekend, do I text her or not text her till she comes back?

find someone who you don't have to follow rules with

I'm curious, how do people know these rules? Nobody ever told me these kinds of things.
I probably learned more about this kind of stuff from watching Seinfeld.

Any 'rules' that I've ever read or heard essentially translate into ways not to appear needy, clingy, or desperate. Notice I said 'appear'. I think one can then ignore these rules if you are, in fact, not needy, clingy, or desperate, but confident, assertive, and...self-aware (?can't think of the right word here?).

But don't ask me how to get there from here, haha. I'm still navigating that road myself.

There are unwritten rules for all aspects of life, imposed on us by history, by society, the media, other humans.

It's upto you however how much you want to try to learn those rules, to have those rules imposed on you. You can try, and you may succeed to some extent. But is that how you want to live your life, under the rules of others? I guess it depends on how much you desire to be accepted by others, but then are you being accepted for who you are, or for your ability to conform?

Unwritten rules are a goof topic for sitcoms etc but thats it, I dont think they are appliable to real life because everyone has heard them(on how i met your mother for example the joke was to wait longer than 3 days because everyone had heard about the three day rule and this implies women had as well)

Honestly imo the only rule you have to follow is to be true to each other about your intentons at all times. Anything else just screams manipulation to me and I dont want to trik anyone into a relationship.

The only rules that I followed when dating were:

1. The person who asks for the date pays for the date.
2. Always carry enough cash for cab fare home (for both people).
3. Let a 3rd person know who you will be with, where you will likely go, and what time you expect to come home.
4. Bathe, shave, and apply cologne before the date.
5. Dress just a little bit better than the venue requires.
6. Refrain from discussing previous relationships.
7. Keep all of your attention on the person you are with (no texting, no calls, et cetera).

This way, if the date didn't work out, it was not my fault.