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is it normal to want to be alone?

For an aspie, yes.

"We go off into the city, into the office, into the nightclubs, to run from our aloneness. The teachers, the gurus, the Zen masters – they go off into the mountains so they can get better acquainted with it. " (Loneliness - The Beginning of Romance)

I often ask myself is it normal to always want to be around other people 24/7 (concerning most NTs).

I enjoy the company of other people but I am also content to be alone to follow an interest.

a soulmate would be awfully nice.

For me it’s less “I want to be alone” and more “I’m better off alone since I’m such a train wreck socially."

Honestly, I think even people that are loners need some social interaction. The question is how much. We live in a society with a crapload of extroverts, so if you are on the far end of introversion, there can be a lot of pressure to feel you are screwed up.

I live alone (I wouldn't have it any other way), I also have a job with minimal social interaction, and work nights. I have approx 4 people I care about that I interact with weekly, otherwise that's it. I am happy with that. From observation with others I seem to be on the far end of introversion. I have always been that way and if I get too much people interaction I get stressed.

The real question is are you happy with your level of social interaction?

I'd call myself an introvert because lots of social contact wears me out. A little bit of social contact here and there is good for me

i'd like to live next door to some of my aspie meetup acquaintances.

I hate being alone.

speaking as a hermit, i can say for a fact, that there are worse things than being alone. like being stuck around unpleasant people. given a choice between being around disocial bullies [like at where i used to work, or in my neighborhood out in the sticks] or my own congenial reflection in the mirror, i will choose the latter every time.

I've felt more alone surrounded by people than I have when I'm by myself.

I can relate to this

Yes, it would be nice to have someone it was easy to be alone with. My son has AS and I am at least "aspish" and it is very easy to be alone with him. That however, is not the same as a significant other kind of relationship.

I agree with ALL the comments. I hate being alone, but alone is not judged just by physical distance. My ideal relationship is knowing there is someone who loves being near me. Even if we only meet once a year.