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Artfuljin
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12 Aug 2011, 1:25 am

is it normal to want to be alone?



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12 Aug 2011, 1:27 am

For an aspie, yes.


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12 Aug 2011, 2:10 am

"We go off into the city, into the office, into the nightclubs, to run from our aloneness. The teachers, the gurus, the Zen masters – they go off into the mountains so they can get better acquainted with it. " (Loneliness - The Beginning of Romance)



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12 Aug 2011, 2:13 am

I often ask myself is it normal to always want to be around other people 24/7 (concerning most NTs).



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12 Aug 2011, 3:08 am

I enjoy the company of other people but I am also content to be alone to follow an interest.



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12 Aug 2011, 4:01 am

a soulmate would be awfully nice.



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12 Aug 2011, 4:04 am

For me it’s less “I want to be alone” and more “I’m better off alone since I’m such a train wreck socially."



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12 Aug 2011, 4:44 am

Honestly, I think even people that are loners need some social interaction. The question is how much. We live in a society with a crapload of extroverts, so if you are on the far end of introversion, there can be a lot of pressure to feel you are screwed up.

I live alone (I wouldn't have it any other way), I also have a job with minimal social interaction, and work nights. I have approx 4 people I care about that I interact with weekly, otherwise that's it. I am happy with that. From observation with others I seem to be on the far end of introversion. I have always been that way and if I get too much people interaction I get stressed.

The real question is are you happy with your level of social interaction?



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12 Aug 2011, 4:45 am

I'd call myself an introvert because lots of social contact wears me out. A little bit of social contact here and there is good for me



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12 Aug 2011, 4:49 am

i'd like to live next door to some of my aspie meetup acquaintances.



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12 Aug 2011, 5:33 am

I hate being alone. :(


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12 Aug 2011, 5:40 am

speaking as a hermit, i can say for a fact, that there are worse things than being alone. like being stuck around unpleasant people. given a choice between being around disocial bullies [like at where i used to work, or in my neighborhood out in the sticks] or my own congenial reflection in the mirror, i will choose the latter every time.



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12 Aug 2011, 5:48 am

I've felt more alone surrounded by people than I have when I'm by myself.



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12 Aug 2011, 5:53 am

Lucywlf wrote:
I've felt more alone surrounded by people than I have when I'm by myself.


I can relate to this



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12 Aug 2011, 6:00 am

auntblabby wrote:
a soulmate would be awfully nice.

Yes, it would be nice to have someone it was easy to be alone with. My son has AS and I am at least "aspish" and it is very easy to be alone with him. That however, is not the same as a significant other kind of relationship.


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