anyone else feel detached in company?

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16 Sep 2011, 7:00 pm

or for instance, wen in a group having a conversation, that ur really just a spectator, watching, listening, but never feeling involved, like ur kind of not even there? Almost like ur invisible. Even wen people include u.



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16 Sep 2011, 7:10 pm

yes all the time and I am not included it seems-even when I am with a group of other aspies when they should understand that a new person may need a little coaxing first until comfortable-but I guess I am looked at and deemed unworthy of getting to be known or included.


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16 Sep 2011, 7:29 pm

I always feel this way in a group. I can't process the conversation fast enough to participate.



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16 Sep 2011, 7:35 pm

Yes, definitely--and bored out of my mind.



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16 Sep 2011, 8:22 pm

most of the time.



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16 Sep 2011, 8:24 pm

Sometimes... and sometimes not.



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16 Sep 2011, 8:42 pm

if i even get as far as being in a conversation i feel like this.



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16 Sep 2011, 9:29 pm

Yes, of course. Not because I can't process the conversation, but because I find it so ridiculously inane and boring.



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16 Sep 2011, 10:03 pm

I felt this way in every social situation I was in until I was about 20. It was then when I learned how to speak up and take a more active role in conversations...I was always the insanely quiet kid who just stood there and listened while everyone else felt like they were part of the group.


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17 Sep 2011, 2:10 pm

This happens to me a lot, especially if most of the group are people that I don't know very well, or not at all..


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17 Sep 2011, 2:17 pm

Yes. Yes yes YES I do!
I hate it. The invisibility is the worst part.



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17 Sep 2011, 3:44 pm

I have used the term 'invisibilty' quite often in describing how I feel when I am an in a group of people over the years. When I am around 1 or 2 other people I feel normal but more than that I feel totally out of place and ignored.


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17 Sep 2011, 3:45 pm

All the stinking time.



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17 Sep 2011, 6:30 pm

FearOfMusic wrote:
I have used the term 'invisibilty' quite often in describing how I feel when I am an in a group of people over the years. When I am around 1 or 2 other people I feel normal but more than that I feel totally out of place and ignored.


Ditto this. It really is like im invisible, or almost like an intruder somewhere i dont belong. I am not too bad with, say 2 or 3 people, but any more, when everyone is trying to talk, i just kind of close down, let my mind wonder to other, quieter places.