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27 Sep 2011, 11:17 pm

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If you are being accused of harassment with women, and there is no equivalent accusations coming from the men, then you are likely doing something different even if you don't realize it, and even if you don't intend to. Or you are not respecting boundaries, probably because you don't see them.

Ironically there are probably times when a woman was open to being your friend and tried to communicate that to you non-verbally and you missed it. It's reasonable to think that if one misses subtle cues of rejection, or boundaries, they are also likely to miss subtle cues of acceptance.


Why can't you just accept that it's a looks issue? Do you not want to admit that maybe SOME women can be quite vapid?


I have male friends who are not the least bit good-looking. I have grown very fond of some of them. They treat me with caring and respect, we have lots in common, and their looks absolutely don't matter. But I'm a female Aspie...

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27 Sep 2011, 11:23 pm

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You really can't tell us off for not saying your looks have anything to do with it when none of us even know what you look like.


And you really can't say I don't get women due to my bad attitude when you have no idea how I act in real life.


I don't care how you act in real life.What you say here is an insight to what you're really thinking and feeling, and that's where vibes come from. Don't you know people can pick up on vibes?

I would say it's because of a combination of desperation, anger, entitlement, lack of interests and lack of social skills, nothing else.



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27 Sep 2011, 11:58 pm

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[ what you're really thinking and feeling.


I didn't always think and feel this way...not that anyone here will address that point. I used to be very hopeful and optimistic, but my spirits were crushed, primarily by women.



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28 Sep 2011, 12:05 am

SadAspy wrote:
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[ what you're really thinking and feeling.


I didn't always think and feel this way...not that anyone here will address that point. I used to be very hopeful and optimistic, but my spirits were crushed, primarily by women.


I was actually thinking of that when I made my post.
To begin with it was likely desperation, social skills and not many interests. The rest came after many rejections. Also it's not the rejections, its how you handle them.



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28 Sep 2011, 12:06 am

SadAspy wrote:
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[ what you're really thinking and feeling.


I didn't always think and feel this way...not that anyone here will address that point. I used to be very hopeful and optimistic, but my spirits were crushed, primarily by women.


Mine too. By one woman in particular. My hopes and dreams died that day