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Hello Everyone,

I'm about as new to this as a person can get, so forgive me if I'm a bit rusty.
I'm finding talking; well more like explaining, about one's self to be infinitely more difficult than I would have first imagined, but...

My name is Robert, though I prefer my given nickname as I've always held nothing but contempt for my first name.

I live in a crime-free, quiet town in Staffordshire (England), caught in between the urban sprawl and the peaceful countryside; though I must admit to not having seen much of it recently beyond my bedroom window.

I am 16 years old and to my great regret not in full-time education at present, I've had a pretty hard life (I won't say a bad one) and I have always identified my Asperger's Syndrome as the root of most of my issues particularly my earlier ones, as I wasn't diagnosed until sometime around my 13th birthday and at that point I was already deeply depressed and in counselling for less-than-pleasant thoughts.

I have had very few friends over my 16 years in this reality and enough bad experiences to last me a lifetime, I digress, but suffice it to say that I don't really trust all that easily and I don't actively seek friendship beyond my two lifelong girlfriends Sophie and Bethany.

I'm not really certain why I have never signed up to this site until now; as I have had knowledge of it's existence for at least 2-3 years as my mother is rather (for lack of a better word) 'obsessed' with my Autism and upon first discovering it went through several months of self-study until she was an encyclopedia of Aspy information.

I want to at least acquaint myself with a few fellow Aspies as I have never actually met another person 'like' myself and it should be at the very least an interesting and educational experience.

I look forward to meeting a few people and remain hopeful that I am in a cheerful mood, rather than a despondent one, when (or should I say 'if') I manage to strike up a PM/chat with any member online here.

Welcome to WP!

Hi AspenShadow! My name's Calvin and I live in the United States of America. I am also new here. I love video games, bowling, a little bit of basketball, and I LOVE Dragon Ball Z. My life really hasn't been that rough for the most part, but I just came out of a rough era that lasted a year for reasons that are personal. My Asperger's too make some aspects of life, however. It took me longer to develop proper social skills, but I do advance greatly in academics which makes p for it. I don't have any girlfriends like you, or ever had a girlfriend (unless you count those elementary school girlfriends that I don't really count). However, that really doesn't bug me, for I'm just waiting for me to fall in lovew again and actually takez some stepss toward getting to know the person rather than just looking from afar wishing I had the guts to talk to them. Anyways, that's a little bit about me and I welcome you to Wrong Planet.

Welcome to WrongPlanet!

I was diagnosed at 13 too, and was depressed for a while. Hope you enjoy your stay here

I should probably clarify Calvin (nice to meet you by the way), when I said girlfriends my meaning was two lifelong friends who are girls, not a relationship. To be honest they are more like little sisters even though the age difference between us spans about a week or two lol, I too have had difficulty with social interaction, but less than most Aspies from what I've been reading and I have excelled; enthusiastically I might add, in all areas of academia since primary school.

Unfortunately I have a few agoraphobic/social-phobic tendencies, that mean I'm not very... well-adapted, to dealing with large crowds, public speaking, acting, eating out with others and generally leaving the house.
I still try though and it is one of the few things I can remain proud of; my fair amount of success in overcoming anxiety and panic when I am out in public.

To circle back to my original point, I'm actually not the best person to talk with about relationships from my own experience; I have felt something akin to love once in my life and even though it was quite a few years ago it still pains me to think back on it, I am lucky I suppose in the regard that for my entire romantic life I've been about 90% Asexual and relationships of any sort seem to interest me less and less as I leave my teenage years behind.

I can however offer some insight into the female mind; from all my time primarily spent with girls (I prefer their company to males) and from my experience in helping other NT acquaintances with their relationship problems (which I have been informed I am rather good with), but beyond that I'm afraid I have no major experience to allow me to comment on the topic as I still have yet to have even a first kiss. Quite embarrassing for a 16 year old apparently.

Thank you all for the warm welcome and I hope to stay with Wrong Planet for a few more years to come at least, now that I've gotten my head wrapped around the basics of the site.

To comfort you, i`m 17 now and i dont even have friends or a girl that likes me, really there is nothing to be emberassed about (Although i`m not an aspie)

^ Indeed, I'll probably never get there but I'm fine with that.

agreed

To WrongPlanet!! !

Welkome to WP!

Mick