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Hi, I'm new in aspie world. I'm not sure if I'm aspie but I found some shared things with aspies and I need some help to determine if I'm aspie or not and here some of my characteristics. People say I am cold and slow, my heartbeat is about 57 per minute, everything in my body is slow even digestive system. I can't think fast. At university I had problem in the exams because I need longer time than other students. I graduated three years ago and I'm engineer now and employed at governmental company for engineering and consulting. I am always silent and people always ask me " why you don't talk " and I don't know how to reply them. I'm very afraid of future and I always wonder if can I live individually, if can travel and drive a car, if can I get married and have children, etc...
I wish I find some help here and I'm sorry for my bad English.

I am always silent and people always ask me " why you don't talk " and I don't know how to reply them. I'm very afraid of future and I always wonder if can I live individually, if can travel and drive a car, if can I get married and have children, etc...
I wish I find some help here and I'm sorry for my bad English.

You could always just respond that your not the talkative type. If you have a job you can start trying to make a budget and find a place to live, etc. For driving, you could get your permit and look into services where you can pay someone to teach you to drive or get a friend/family member to teach you. With relationships, you need to decide what you want and than try and socialize with the types of people you like or have things in common with. When people ask questions, you don't need to give them direct answers. Typically, I prefer saying that I'm a private person and don't discuss my social life. When I'm with my friends however... .