How late is 'too late' to get started with a relationship?
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That's a good thought, but you have to take into account the amount of people who are already married as you get older.
But half of them will get a divorce and become available again.
I didn't have my first real girlfriend until I was 29. We were together for 18 months or so. I met my wife when I was 31. Been married 15 years now. If I can have 2 serious relationships, anybody could. For some reason women just didn't find me attractive for the first 29 years of my life.
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That's a good thought, but you have to take into account the amount of people who are already married as you get older.
But half of them will get a divorce and become available again.
I didn't have my first real girlfriend until I was 29. We were together for 18 months or so. I met my wife when I was 31. Been married 15 years now. If I can have 2 serious relationships, anybody could. For some reason women just didn't find me attractive for the first 29 years of my life.
glad you were able to get one before you turned 30
Well, then perhaps you aren't especially good at whatever it is you do. That doesn't make me gifted for being really good at my unrelated-to-yours-job. Nor does it preclude you from being really good at some *other* job, should you seek/obtain one.
It takes a LOT to come off as insta-creepy via dating website. Particularly after a *single* message. And the dating sites clearly aren't working for you.
Assume the bare bones minimum requirement is financially independent (not wealthy, self-supporting) and doesn't live with their parents for adult men who have completed their post-secondary education.
Ages ago, when I did OKCupid, I specified an age range & education level. Only guys who mentioned hunting/fishing as a hobby automatically were automatically "no" (proxy for good ole country boys = too many awful first dates). Like, nearly half my closest girlfriends found husbands online and were similarly circumspect in their non-negotiable requirements.
Well then, it's time to stop complaining about being single and start deleting your profile from dating sites. Stop moaning and devote your time to something, anything else!
not your life so just leave me alone.
don't need more people telling me how awful and horrible I am.
Everybody can see if somebody looks back. In fact, Aspies probably are superior at detecting that, and it is not part of NTs typical communication. It's only creepy if you overdo it.
From what I've read, this way seems like a big failure to you, so why do you continue with a failure?
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You have three years of your 20s/youth left. You could be one of my hose people. Or Elliot Rodger.
Everybody can see if somebody looks back. In fact, Aspies probably are superior at detecting that, and it is not part of NTs typical communication. It's only creepy if you overdo it.
From what I've read, this way seems like a big failure to you, so why do you continue with a failure?
but are they looking at you cause they like you or cause they thinking why that creepy guy looking at me. looks away back omg hess still looking at me.
well my failure is due to not being a real man. ie lacking a goo paying job and car. so nothing will work.
That's easy to see. If you haven't learned how to differentiate positive from negative emotions, then you absolutely need to learn that anyway. A tip is that smiling is interest and notifying others means you are acting creepy, but smiling is not a requirement for interest.
You do realize that the girls you are flirting with like this have no idea if you have a job or a car, so they cannot reject you on those grounds?
That's easy to see. If you haven't learned how to differentiate positive from negative emotions, then you absolutely need to learn that anyway. A tip is that smiling is interest and notifying others means you are acting creepy, but smiling is not a requirement for interest.
You do realize that the girls you are flirting with like this have no idea if you have a job or a car, so they cannot reject you on those grounds?
simple see a person looking at me they don't seem to be positive nor negative.
they ask. o.O I tell. since lying is a bad way to start a relationship.
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You have three years of your 20s/youth left. You could be one of my hose people. Or Elliot Rodger.
I don't want to end up like that monster, ya it's just since I have 3 years left, I want to be assertive and take action about it and at the same time, avoid coming across as needy or desperate at the same time.
http://www.thedigeratilife.com/blog/exp ... ge-income/
If you need a partner who can support you, you chances of finding a possible match are much greater if you consider older partners.
Young women marrying older guys for money is a classic compromise--I'm sure most of them would rather marry a younger guy who has money and looks, but the last guy I knew like that wasn't relationship material either, as he had severe mental health issues.
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I know that Elliot Rodger was known and even reported to have thrown drinks at couples who he was very jealous of, although I would never do what he did like that, I know how to control myself, I generally feel like that, although at the same time I keep to myself and refrain from doing it, when I see young couples out there, like late teens and early 20's, because its a painful reminder of the years I missed out on and will never get back
He was younger than you, had more money than you (well, his parents did, from the sounds of it) and a super-fancy luxury car.
Eliott's habit of wandering around, being super-creepy and resentful and throwing pretty girls he didn't bother to talk to -- even when they said hi, introduced themselves and invited him to their party in the building they both lived in!!
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He was younger than you, had more money than you (well, his parents did, from the sounds of it) and a super-fancy luxury car.
Eliott's habit of wandering around, being super-creepy and resentful and throwing pretty girls he didn't bother to talk to -- even when they said hi, introduced themselves and invited him to their party in the building they both lived in!!
I don't recall girls ever saying Hi or talking to him first
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