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10 Nov 2011, 1:05 am
10 Nov 2011, 1:08 am
I wear sunglasses. 
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10 Nov 2011, 1:11 am
Sparx wrote:
I wear sunglasses.
Hehe, nice emoticon choice.
Does anyone have solutions that'd work for... work, like when you're interacting with customers? I'm not entirely sure if sunglasses would be appropriate.
And, in the future, I'm not entirely sure I could always wear sunglasses when talking to employees, potential business partners and important clients. (Or bosses/managers.)
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10 Nov 2011, 1:12 am
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10 Nov 2011, 1:21 am
dobrolvr wrote:
swbluto wrote:
I noticed that whenever I interact with others, that people are constantly deflecting their gaze and they seem to look/act "awkward" or "uncomfortable". I assume this is because of my "aspie stare" and possible lack of emotional reciprocity (I.e., I don't seem to mirror other people's tonality and excitedness when they greet me and I'm guessing this causes discomfort.), which might be interpreted as being hostile or something like that. Does anyone know if this is actually "the problem", as in, do you have this problem too? If you do or if you did, do you know what the solution is?
Yeah, I have this same issue. I feel like I make people uncomfortable, but I don't know how to stop. I began doing it to show people that I was listening to them, and I guess I just go overboard. It's especially bad if I'm around authority figures, like during job interviews and stuff. I'd definitely like to know what to do about it too.
Sometimes I try the strategy of mimicking the other person, like if they look away, I start to look away too, and then I enter a cycle of looking at them for 5-10 seconds, look away for a few, look at them 5-10 more seconds, etc.
While this doesn't exactly "cure the problem"(When people usually interact, they're like always looking at each other as they do the "facial expression dance" whose steps I obviously don't know.), I think it can reduce the 'problem'. It's like a palliate.
(Hehe, just had to use that big word because I saw it on an IQ test and I didn't know what it meant so I had to look it up, and now I want to remember it by using it.)
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10 Nov 2011, 11:44 am
wavefreak58 wrote:
Pepper spray.
Hahaha
10 Nov 2011, 11:46 am
swbluto wrote:
dobrolvr wrote:
swbluto wrote:
I noticed that whenever I interact with others, that people are constantly deflecting their gaze and they seem to look/act "awkward" or "uncomfortable". I assume this is because of my "aspie stare" and possible lack of emotional reciprocity (I.e., I don't seem to mirror other people's tonality and excitedness when they greet me and I'm guessing this causes discomfort.), which might be interpreted as being hostile or something like that. Does anyone know if this is actually "the problem", as in, do you have this problem too? If you do or if you did, do you know what the solution is?
Yeah, I have this same issue. I feel like I make people uncomfortable, but I don't know how to stop. I began doing it to show people that I was listening to them, and I guess I just go overboard. It's especially bad if I'm around authority figures, like during job interviews and stuff. I'd definitely like to know what to do about it too.
Sometimes I try the strategy of mimicking the other person, like if they look away, I start to look away too, and then I enter a cycle of looking at them for 5-10 seconds, look away for a few, look at them 5-10 more seconds, etc.
While this doesn't exactly "cure the problem"(When people usually interact, they're like always looking at each other as they do the "facial expression dance" whose steps I obviously don't know.), I think it can reduce the 'problem'. It's like a palliate.
(Hehe, just had to use that big word because I saw it on an IQ test and I didn't know what it meant so I had to look it up, and now I want to remember it by using it.)Yeah, I've started doing that, but I still feel like I'm not doing it right...haha, well, you learn something new everyday. I'll have to look that one up. Thanks
10 Nov 2011, 12:22 pm
In conversation in languages other than English I sometimes need to stare, because I'm not only listening but also having to lip read a little.
Scientologists are good at staring because they practise it for hours and hours. TR0, isn't it?
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