I don't understand why most teens are like this!!

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I had a friend over this last night. Shes 2 years older then me and shes gross! All she wanted to talk about was boys and sex. I like talking about boys but I dont like talking about them all night long! I tried to talked to her about other things but she started texting boys and talking dirty with them. She showed me what her and this boy were talking about and it was so nasty! She said a lot of people our age do it. Almost every one around my age that I meet are total perverts! I dont get why she like boys so much. They are ok but they are not that great. And I dont get why the boys like the girls so much. They are not that great either yet they are both obessed with each other! They dont have any thing they like to do they are scared to speak their minds or be different. All they like is sex and talking about sex and partying. Im not saying all teens are like this Im just saying that a lot of teens I meet are like this and I dont under stand why.

Hey, it's not like you'll have to worry. It will be them contracting STDs, not you.

I hate it when the conversation turn into love and boys. I shut up immediately and either leave the table or talk about something else.
Many nts do that, and they seem to have no particular fixation about anything else. Stay yourself and don't get polluted.

Its something to do with hormones im sure of it. I only started getting like that later in my teens like 17 18 years old.
But think of it this way. the same way aspies have focus subject she as a NT has the focus subject of boys and sex and since its such the inn thing at that age its all she wants to talk about.
I was told by my aspie male mate that girls are bigger perves than boys because of this one reason.
He told me that boys dont actually talk about girls in the same way a girl talks about boys. (he has 2 older girl siblings n 1 older male sibling he'd know). lol
I only have 1 friend who I talk about this stuff with only cause its mutual.

You just need to explain to her one it may be due to the age difference that you're not at that stage yet mentally or homornely and that she not talk about it, so much.

What are you 12? Ok let her be. Don't hang out with that girl anymore. You will understand soon. Not yet, though. Don't worry about sex for a while. Any older person will tell you this. Now I'm 17, I don't know anything about the world. But any adult will tell you that sex is not that important in a happy life. Sure it make babies, sure it feels good, sure. But honing skills in a particular interest is a lot more satisfying (especially as a aspergian). Find what your good at and become better. You will find a person with the same interests as you eventually. You will fall in love. You will spend the rest of your lives together. Thick and thin. Just f*****g wait, alright? Highschool boys are icky. Take it from Silver. I used to be one.

Sorry to be blunt, girly. I've got a young sister and I'm get very passionate about what's best in the interests of young women. It hurts me to see bright women turn to drugs, prostitution, and the like because their parents don't tell them a damn thing about life. The public school system is s**t. Don't trust it. It's built for the neuros. Not for you. Trust your insticts and you'll be happy. Trust me.

I never understood that, myself. They start talking about that stuff at an early age and they never stop. I find it to be very annoying. I remember girls asking if I've played Tonsil Hockey and had sex with some guy. I've cut myself off from my same sex peers until after I've graduated from High School. I just didn't want to hear that stuff my entire time at High School. I was 14 at the time, and a couple of the girls who were asking me those questions were 13 years old.

Stupid is as stupid does.

You really need to find some better people to hang out with. There must be some people there that are not obsessed with the latest trendy crap.

It sounds to me like she might be a little too advanced for her age and yours, and she isn't respecting the fact that you are maturing at a more normal rate, and aren't into that stuff yet. There's NO rush, and I don't mean to sound like a father figure here, but I'd worry that a friend like that, might cause you to feel pushed into doing things you aren't ready to do yet, even though you could if pushed. And that would be a tragedy. Be careful not to let her guilt you or ridicule you for not being ready to think about boys so obsessively and persistently yet!

Charles

i overheard two boys talking at a busstop last week about what a girl from school had text them. they must have been about 13 and i thought it was pretty gross. i'm not prudish but i find it worrying how all these kids are 'sexting' this way. from the convo i gathered she wasn't his girlfriend and wasn't even very good friends with him by the sounds of it. and i'm pretty sure no 13 year old girl would actually do the stuff she apparently said. makes me worry about what young girls are stooping to to get the attention of boys. and what boys expect as normal. this next generation's gonna be so messed up. the interent porn generation

Yeah, I don't like hearing about that stuff too much either.

actually many girls are sexually mature, even getting married at 14 happened frequently in history

an old NT ex mate would say 'titties' when we drive past a girl, so its not just teens....

And... sixteen and pregnant is in what season now? The generation of modern technology. Parents have zip control.

I have a 15yo daughter. She is my youngest. She had three friends spend the weekend this weekend. There was a lot of hair dying and texting boys and downloading music and watching YouTube going on. Last night some boys came over to hang out with them for a while. They sat in the den and talked and listened to music, they got my daughters giant Flemish rabbit out and played with him for a while (and that is a HUGE bunny! He's not even fully grown and is the size of a medium size dog!) , then all went out in the back yard and the boys did this MMA wresteling thing where they apparantly have flags or something attached and have to hit and kick each other until they drop all their flags. Apparantly this is a normal pastime for boys that age. The girls cheered them on, the dogs got upset and barked. It got late and one of the boys parents came to get them. After they left there was another round of hair dying.

All the girls are home now and my daughters hair is dark red but it was supposed to be purple. She's unhappy but has bleach left, so there is no telling what she will look like in the morning.

They are all NT's.

Frances

I'm pretty sure I'm one of the people who invented the word sexting. Just sayin.

I sometimes watched that show.. guilty pleasure I suppose, but I seen a comment on my facebook.. I have random people on there when I was playing facebook games and it was this person saying she was pregnant. When I was reading it and looked at it, it talked about hoping this one made it.. so naturally I assumed married older person who has been trying for a kid, had a miscarriage so is now really excited about this one, but no. This girl was like 16 or so, with some 16 or so boyfriend, has no job, and apparently got pregnant before (At that point I would have thought these people would go phew no baby.. awesome), instead they, from the way it sounded, tried for another one.. and the grandparent was congratulating her. Insane.

I would think from the first pregnancy scare.. which apparently wasn't a scare at all to them, would sort of kick the parents into high gear and put their child on birth control. Instead they let their kids with no job try for babies..I realize kids have sex and mistakes happen.. but to do it on purpose, I don't even know what to say about that.