SteelMaiden wrote:
Can anyone give me a reasonable answer? I intend never to go to a party again in my life, as my sensory issues are worse than they used to be (and they were bad enough then) and I am terrible in social situations; I either make a fool of myself by rambling about the pharmacology of dopamine partial agonists to a random couple sitting at the bar, or I withdraw into myself and sit in the corner with a textbook. I'm just intrigued as to what one does in parties.
There are lots of answers here already and they pretty much cover it. A party is supposed to be an enjoyable occasion where a number of people get together and share a range of activities which may involve loud music being played and dancing (school discos, teenage parties etc) but I would also say that there is more than one kind of party.
Teenage parties have a tendency to involve some of the guests trying to partner up with someone else and then finding a private corner to kiss (and more).
You could have a party around a barbecue in someone's garden, where the emphasis would be around food, drink and chatting to the other guests and hopefully enjoying some sunshine, where the music would only be on in the background because of the neighbours.
Then there are family parties, such as birthday parties, which are less about music and dancing and being superloud and drunk, and more about reaffirming family ties by celebrating someone's birthday, or Silver Wedding or similar. It should in theory be easier to talk to people at family parties as at least one generally knows some of them. In practice that can sometimes be the problem of course!
Not all NTs enjoy parties, I find them mostly pretty exhausting, even family ones, but I can sort of cope with them.
One way to do this is to go with one other person who is also not very sociable and then you can keep each other company while watching the party from the sidelines. That may not be quite entering into the spirit of things but at least it means you are there and can take part in the event if you want to or have to, but at the same time have a safe haven to retreat to if you need to.
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