Feeling lied to

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I suppose weve all been lied to. its just normal but when its by someone you trust and care about it hurts even more.
Especially when you catch them out yourself.
my friend on here swore he was through with WP... reasons i cbf to go into.. but finding him post a few days ago something i just accidently clicked on, I found he had relplied to the post.
I dont know why it hurt to find out that. it shouldnt really. I shouldnt really care but it still hurts so much. especially since i put myself out there so much for this person, one little lie brings everything crashing down for me.

now im wondering should i just forgive him, ask him why he posted on recently, or just let it go and forget about it, or forget about my friend all together...






















PS. Kail. if by some means you read this im sorry im so insecure.....

I think many of us have sworn we won't come back to WP but still do. It's like the mafia, once you're in you can't get back out.

Sometimes people just change their minds. Was it a definite 'I'M NOT COMING BACK!' ?

I know how it feels like being lied to. When someone says one thing to me in a conversation then in another conversation says something completely different to another person I feel I was lied to. I have that same reaction of being lied to.

I hate being lied to, but I've learned as pensieve points out that sometimes people just change their minds.

He may have changed his mind. This place is addicting and it's hard to stay away. He may not have lied and just changed his mind or couldn't stay away even though he wants to be through with this place.

I used to get into a lot of heated arguments on here and I needed a few days to cool off. Sometimes I would vow never to come back especially when disagreements turn into insults. I've been here a few years and I don't think this forum was as bad as it was a year or two ago. It goes through phases or jerk posters (all of whom are no longer posting here) and I don't mean trolls.

Now I ignore posts or leave before they get too heated.

I hate people thinking I am a liar. But it is inevitable if you are different from other people. For 3 reasons:

1. Seeing things differently
For example, I used to be a Mormon. I tried to make sense of it and do what I was told. I put a lot of stuff online trying to prove that the church was true. For example, I would write "this prophet said X, and then X came true!"

I eventually decided this was all coincidence. So I gave up promoting the church and started putting stuff online about how the church needs to improve. But I left the early stuff online because it was still true: now I just saw a bigger picture.

But years later some people think I am creepy and unreliable because I appear to be saying opposite things. It is easy to be thought a liar when you try too hard to tell the truth.

2. Exaggerating or over simplifying.
Also, I try hard to fit in, and will sometimes say things I think are probably true and say hem as if they are eternal facts. Later if I change my mind somebody could accuse me of lying. Nobody ever has, but I imagine they could.

3. Remembering differently.
I read a lot of comics in the 1980s, and now I sometimes read interviews with comic creators from that period and before. Often one creator will accuse another of being a liar, but they just remember the same event differently. Jim Shooter (then editor in chief of Marvel Comics) is a good example of this. A lot of comic professionals still hate him, and think he cannot be trusted. They tell stories of how he did bad things and then changed his story. But another bunch of comic readers (including myself) see things from his point of view and think his critics only saw part of the story.

So I think it is easy to appear a liar even if we are not.

Having said that, I think the vast majority of people do not care about truth at all. They only care about what they can get. To prove this, try discussing someone's faults. They will become very defensive. Or try discussing the philosophical foundations of what we do: people become very bored. Truth is only of interest to people if it helps them get what they want. That is true for me as well. My special interest is in saving the world so I like to flatter myself that my own view of truth is bigger than other people's, but it also means I disagree with a lot of common assumptions, and so most people would consider me wrong on a lot of important topics.It all depends on where we stand.