Am I dating an Aspie?

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I first met this girl online a few months back. We proceeded to go out on a few dates, but she is very very different from any other female I've ever spoken to. For one thing, she barely speaks. She is exceptionally quiet, even more so than any other quiet female I've spoken to. I can barely get her to speak at all. She's pretty talkative online and via sms messages on the phone, but in person, she's silent. The few topics I can get her to speak on involves her studies (she's a junior in molecular biology), her homework and sex. That is it. Not the best in conversation, but she seems pretty nice. She's told me her exposure to the dating world is very small. I'd like to know more about her. Anyway, does she sound aspie? I can't find many other telltale signs. exceptionally quiet, may mean a lack of social skills. I know at one time, I was just like her.

She sounds very introverted at least. How much time have you two spent together?

she sounds shy...take your time with these ones they are usually gems.

Sounds exactly like my ex gf.
Talk loads on msn, but barely say anything for real.

I know what you mean I've pretended so as to fit in my whole life, but this always left me angry and unsatisfied, and VERY stressed so of course emulate NT's all you want, but not at your own expense or the loss of your goals/desires.

Be yourself, see if she comes out her shell a little

From a statistical point of view, she's more likely to be shy than an aspie.

I'm not sure.

She very well could be.

Your complaining that she only talks about a few subjects and one being sex, I sit here confused, this is my favourite subject, and most guys would like to talk about this as much as possible. But with most guys it is usually with whom, when and how often.
seriously though she sounds great, get to know her, make her feel comfortable around you and boost her confidence, tell her how pretty she looks and is that a new dress etc. be genuine and show your interested.
She could be aspie or very shy or both. let her see you the way you really are and talk about the things you do that other males may not, like stimming. If she tells you that she does the same or hops a lot, flaps hands or whatever, then she will start to feel comfortable with you in letting you know. She may know that she is different from other girls and not know that she is aspie. But she will feel good knowing that someone else does the same, or you may know of someone that does the same.
Our son who is Aspie bites the back of his hands, I didn't know this was because of his Aspieness, but it is big relieve to him and us to know that others do it.
Don't mention the aspie to early in the relationship. Just my two pence worth.

Is she hot? Can you descibe her?

>>Is she hot? Can you descibe her?<<

Typical male. This is irrelivent.

And your point is...

Maybe the better question is... do you like her shyness? Or does it annoy you? If you're restraining anger every time its gonna build up... If you're enjoying it, don't worry about it!

i don't understand


WHY YOU AS AN AUTISTIC NEED A GIRL THAT TALK TOO MUCH IN REAL LIFE???