Female Aspies were you violent as a child?

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I've read a few recent WP posts and the age old "We hide it better" less aggressive etc. comes up. UH! NO!! (not for me at least!) I had another medical condition I was picked on for and lashed out. I remember throwing a chair once in class!! I once slapped a PE teacher on the wrist for not letting me be line leader I WAS assigned that job for the week and DAMN IT! I was going to be first in line!! !! ! I was in the principals office DAILY! For hitting or other such issues. That was my Elementary School days the principals office daily!! !! EVERYDAY! Sadly I usually read we hide it or are absorbed in books etc. and while yes I was into academics and still am I had a violent streak (not blood violence pushing you etc. basic stuff.) I was being picked on daily and I fought back from how I look on it.

I don't have AS, but I am autistic and female. I was not really violent toward other people--though there were a few incidents (ie. I used to pinch my brothers on occasion, and once my brother nastily encouraged me to fit him over the head with a hockey stick as a taunt, so I took him up on the offer). Mostly I was violent toward myself. My meltdowns were loud and aggressive though, just not generally violent toward other people.

Some of my rough and tumble play got a bit out of hand. My brother and I were playfully kicking each other and I almost got him under the belt and he told me not to do that. I kicked my dad playfully but he was very old and kind of moaned. Then when I was 3 I went through a biting stage.

Some of the symptoms girls with AS have I can relate too but some others I can't. Like I am more of a systemiser can't show emotions type that they usually say is more seen in males. Well I can show the emotions of anger and over excitement but that's it. I think I have a number of traits from each gender.

Yes, I hit people and threw things when I had meltdowns.

I made a boy in my class eat dirt one time, but he had just stolen and eaten my lunch right before I did it. I was much smaller than he was, so I guess he thought he could get away with it. I still feel this was justified, though I'm not sure if my enjoyment of that moment makes me a violent person.

Aside from being slightly over protective of my food (and resisting time-outs and medicine as I imagine any kid would), I didn't really react physically to much.

I tried to strangle someone in high school, I just remembered.

Yes, I was sometimes violent during a meltdown, and oftentimes very obvious, at least until I learned to hide in the bathroom when it happened during school. I still can be violent during a meltdown, though it's pretty rare for me now. I was also diagnosed with Oppositional Defiance Disorder as a child, which I think is kind of a BS diagnosis, but it is a diagnosis often given to children who are seen as "acting out" and not "properly" respecting authority figures. (Actually, most of the time I was pretty quiet and easier than most other kids, but I guess the times when I did express my frustration openly were intense enough that I was labeled as a problem, though I wasn't diagnosed with actual ASD until I was almost 18.)

Not really, I one punched my friend over something really stupid but that was one time. Although I had a teacher that was horrible when I was in 3rd and 4th grade that I would bite her so she wouldn't grab me.

Not at all. But during my life I've been very clumsy and hurt people accidentally.

However, if I'm ever outwardly violent, it's directed towards myself only.

nope, not violent.

I wasn't real violent, I spat, kicked and hit and bit and hit people and shoved and scratched but that was for self defense. But I was never violent to the teachers ever. I remember when I was a small child I would try and bite my daycare teacher and I have vague memories of kicking them. I can get violent when my buttons get pushed too far. I have also thrown things. I remember going through a weird phase choking my brother.

Not violent... except to myself and only then when no one was around

apparently i was. my aunt says she used to fear for my sister but i dont remember being threatening to the sister she was talking about. i remember liking rough housing but i dont think i went up to people and acted threatening. sometimes i would snap but only with sister number 2. i think it was more self control than anything autism related.

YES! I think one of the reasons I was so easy to diagnose was becuase I presented EXTACTALY like the boys with autism are supposed to. I also suspect I had fetal alchol syndrome and reactive attachment disorder in addition to autism. But anyway, I was VERY agressive and violent as a child. My mother often remarks that it was as if I "had a chip on my shoulder" and that if one were to take it personaly, I was a "very mean baby".

I was violent, but I hid it well so the adults didn't know. I would "accidentally" punch or trip people. While walking home from school, I would pick fights with the boys. I never really tried to hurt anyone; it was just how I dealt with my many frustrations. I'm lucky no one was ever seriously injured.

I don't remember much past 5th grade, but I do remember grabbing a girl's arm and biting her in a playground around kindergarten/1st grade. I don't remember why I did that though..?

But past 5th grade, I did participate in some rowdy kiddy streetfighting with my younger brother and our neighboring friends. But other than that, memory tells me that I wasn't too violent.