Female Aspies were you violent as a child?

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30 Dec 2011, 10:11 pm

I've read a few recent WP posts and the age old "We hide it better" less aggressive etc. comes up. UH! NO!! (not for me at least!) I had another medical condition I was picked on for and lashed out. I remember throwing a chair once in class!! I once slapped a PE teacher on the wrist for not letting me be line leader I WAS assigned that job for the week and DAMN IT! I was going to be first in line!! !! ! I was in the principals office DAILY! For hitting or other such issues. That was my Elementary School days the principals office daily!! !! EVERYDAY! Sadly I usually read we hide it or are absorbed in books etc. and while yes I was into academics and still am I had a violent streak (not blood violence pushing you etc. basic stuff.) :-) I was being picked on daily and I fought back from how I look on it.



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30 Dec 2011, 10:24 pm

I don't have AS, but I am autistic and female. I was not really violent toward other people--though there were a few incidents (ie. I used to pinch my brothers on occasion, and once my brother nastily encouraged me to fit him over the head with a hockey stick as a taunt, so I took him up on the offer). Mostly I was violent toward myself. My meltdowns were loud and aggressive though, just not generally violent toward other people.


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30 Dec 2011, 10:31 pm

Some of my rough and tumble play got a bit out of hand. My brother and I were playfully kicking each other and I almost got him under the belt and he told me not to do that. I kicked my dad playfully but he was very old and kind of moaned. Then when I was 3 I went through a biting stage.

Some of the symptoms girls with AS have I can relate too but some others I can't. Like I am more of a systemiser can't show emotions type that they usually say is more seen in males. Well I can show the emotions of anger and over excitement but that's it. I think I have a number of traits from each gender.


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30 Dec 2011, 10:47 pm

Yes, I hit people and threw things when I had meltdowns.



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30 Dec 2011, 10:53 pm

I made a boy in my class eat dirt one time, but he had just stolen and eaten my lunch right before I did it. I was much smaller than he was, so I guess he thought he could get away with it. I still feel this was justified, though I'm not sure if my enjoyment of that moment makes me a violent person.

Aside from being slightly over protective of my food (and resisting time-outs and medicine as I imagine any kid would), I didn't really react physically to much.


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30 Dec 2011, 11:09 pm

I tried to strangle someone in high school, I just remembered.



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30 Dec 2011, 11:33 pm

Yes, I was sometimes violent during a meltdown, and oftentimes very obvious, at least until I learned to hide in the bathroom when it happened during school. I still can be violent during a meltdown, though it's pretty rare for me now. I was also diagnosed with Oppositional Defiance Disorder as a child, which I think is kind of a bullshit diagnosis, but it is a diagnosis often given to children who are seen as "acting out" and not "properly" respecting authority figures. (Actually, most of the time I was pretty quiet and easier than most other kids, but I guess the times when I did express my frustration openly were intense enough that I was labeled as a problem, though I wasn't diagnosed with actual ASD until I was almost 18.)



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30 Dec 2011, 11:57 pm

Not really, I one punched my friend over something really stupid but that was one time. Although I had a teacher that was horrible when I was in 3rd and 4th grade that I would bite her so she wouldn't grab me.


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30 Dec 2011, 11:59 pm

Not at all. But during my life I've been very clumsy and hurt people accidentally. :oops:

However, if I'm ever outwardly violent, it's directed towards myself only.



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31 Dec 2011, 12:01 am

nope, not violent.



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31 Dec 2011, 12:33 am

I wasn't real violent, I spat, kicked and hit and bit and hit people and shoved and scratched but that was for self defense. But I was never violent to the teachers ever. I remember when I was a small child I would try and bite my daycare teacher and I have vague memories of kicking them. I can get violent when my buttons get pushed too far. I have also thrown things. I remember going through a weird phase choking my brother.



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31 Dec 2011, 1:36 am

Not violent... except to myself and only then when no one was around


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31 Dec 2011, 2:18 am

apparently i was. my aunt says she used to fear for my sister but i dont remember being threatening to the sister she was talking about. i remember liking rough housing but i dont think i went up to people and acted threatening. sometimes i would snap but only with sister number 2. i think it was more self control than anything autism related.



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31 Dec 2011, 2:34 am

YES! I think one of the reasons I was so easy to diagnose was becuase I presented EXTACTALY like the boys with autism are supposed to. I also suspect I had fetal alchol syndrome and reactive attachment disorder in addition to autism. But anyway, I was VERY agressive and violent as a child. My mother often remarks that it was as if I "had a chip on my shoulder" and that if one were to take it personaly, I was a "very mean baby".


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31 Dec 2011, 2:44 am

I was violent, but I hid it well so the adults didn't know. I would "accidentally" punch or trip people. While walking home from school, I would pick fights with the boys. I never really tried to hurt anyone; it was just how I dealt with my many frustrations. I'm lucky no one was ever seriously injured.


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