Attracting the wrong women

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Thanks all for your comments. Some very interesting points.

Thanks for the compliment Naomi! Though I think in turn you have been quite judgemental towards me. I am giving the girls a chance to show something I might be interested in besides their looks, I'm hardly throwing them in the dumpster from the get go because of their personality. I am not the kind of person to judge and keep first impressions unless a person is incredibly violent or bigoted. And also who says I am sleeping with all of them, that is something you have thought about the situation. It is not the case. The ones that want to sleep on the first couple of dates are no gos.

MCalavera you put it less delicately but more truthfully than I could have!

mds_02, maybe that is true but I like to have a glimmer of hope

Raven, thank you so much I will try there. I wanted to do volunteering again in something as I have nothing other than family, some friends and computers to fill my spare time (which I've had plenty of for the last 2 months!). Maybe from what you said about NT guys I am just being naive and need to be more cautious with the dating scene.

Sweetleaf, I think just because I am understanding of their situation they shouldn't confuse it with feelings beyond wanting to casually date or...THAT, if it comes to it but it's not the fault of those women some just haven't had any non abusive people in their lives and take kindness as love. It's just they aren't my type.

bruinsy33, I'll try and look harder and build up courage to engage women that are less likely to make the first move it seems to be one source of the problem.

ivy, I used to think that but then maybe it's just in our fate regardless of where we live as Aspies. I lived in Belfast for some time and it wasn't much different even in the posher bits for me.

gtw, again interesting theories.

Anyways thanks again will take all this in and see what happens this year. Anyone in the same boat, good luck to you too!

I would say that you are safe -- and for women with turbulent and unpredictable backgrounds that can be a turn-on. Then they cling to you because you're an anchor in an otherwise unruly sea. If your avatar is really you I'd say they go for looks as well.

It could be where you live or where you meet women. I used to go to this one night club and the only type of girls who would show any interest were white trash types. 19-20 years old 1+ kids, stinky, fat, not physically attractive at all. Had too many issues and had no future. I haven't gone to that club in close to 2 years and don't attract that type of girl much at all anymore.

I attract pretty girls now and then, but they're almost always "the wrong kind". They're typically chain smokers, have bleached hair, facial piercings and can seem very nice one moment; we'll talk about everything, have nice sex and so on. Then, they typically become manipulative and passive-agressive.