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05 Jan 2012, 8:44 pm

There are many reasons people turn to online dating like having trouble with finding someone in the real world or busy life styles.

I turned to online dating because I don't drive and getting to places can be transportation issues for me.

My public transportation isn't always reliable with service they had years and not firing or reprimanding people in the company that need it.

I tried the 2 known sites many people have met on whether dating or married.



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05 Jan 2012, 9:25 pm

Here's a few of my reasons :arrow:
I cant drive & there's no public transportation here because it's rural. Not many places to go to meet people except bars/clubs & casinos & I'm a straight-edge Secular Humanist. I'm not working due to disabilities so I cant meet women at work. Even if I could meet people offline; I'm very awkward at 1st & I would have to get to know them a while before I felt comfortable asking them out. I'm very willing to relocate because I hate living here. I spend a lot of my time online anyways because there's not much else for me to do around here & I find it's easier for me to be more personal online


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05 Jan 2012, 9:36 pm

I also couldn't find available women at where I go. I walk the beach and tried the beach. I even tried a boardwalk before ever trying dating services.



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07 Jan 2012, 10:54 am

I am already on the computer a lot
I don't drive, I'm not in college yet, I don't have a job
I get hit on, that feels nice (ok, I'm shallow, whatever. :roll: )
I make friends on there and make connections with people and learn how to socialize.
I can look at pictures of hot guys and salivate ;) Image JK.... ;)


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07 Jan 2012, 11:01 am

I am still too coward to approach women in real life. Maybe it is a good idea to start on a less "menacing" place, like the internet (no eye contact here :P ).

Besides, in the unlikely event of me getting a real date out of OkCupid, it will probably help me get over my anxiety, even though I do not think it will lead to a relationship.



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07 Jan 2012, 11:09 am

I'm not so sure I'd like to try a site specifically designed for people to get together. Feels unnatural and "fixed" and I suppose I'd get paranoid about what's to be expected from me. Still, it would seem better than the alternative, at least. Generally am able to get to know people better online and don't misinterpret things as often. Either way, at the moment I feel that anything would just end up as a failure as I think I'd be a very boring person to talk to with absolutely nothing going on in my life right now. :P


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07 Jan 2012, 11:19 am

Magnus_Rex wrote:

Besides, in the unlikely event of me getting a real date out of OkCupid, it will probably help me get over my anxiety, even though I do not think it will lead to a relationship.


I got one because he had connections to a friend of the family. He ended up being a dipwad and didn't talk to me. It wasn't even supposed to be a date, but he made it one because we were driven by a couple (I got along better with them than I did with him!! !)
I have probably found the majority of mormon people on there anyways....and gotten responses. So it's less real.

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I think I'd be a very boring person to talk to with absolutely nothing going on in my life right now.


I don't have anything going on and I can find plenty to talk about! :D Any special interests?


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07 Jan 2012, 11:39 am

chrissyrun wrote:
I don't have anything going on and I can find plenty to talk about! :D Any special interests?


Well you already know I like art. :P Other than that there's writing stories and playing and creating video games. I suppose you could go into a whole other subset from there like different kinds of art or writing styles or whatever else, but more often than not I find myself more interested in, well, others' interests a lot more just because of how different they can be from my own, which can reflect their kind of personality or how they might view things in a different way.

Maybe part of it is that I don't like to talk about myself because there is just so much negativity when I do. I'd like to be more optimistic, but then I can't seem to find the line between being humble and too self-absorbed.


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07 Jan 2012, 12:47 pm

I like online dating because in real life I only seem to get interest from buff meathead types whereas my preference is for large nerdy types.My boyfriend has told me that he would be way too shy to talk to me in person and would never think someone like me would be interested in him. So online dating works for me because it cuts out all the bull that comes from looking "attractive".


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07 Jan 2012, 1:06 pm

chrissyrun wrote:
I got one because he had connections to a friend of the family. He ended up being a dipwad and didn't talk to me. It wasn't even supposed to be a date, but he made it one because we were driven by a couple (I got along better with them than I did with him!! !)
I have probably found the majority of mormon people on there anyways....and gotten responses. So it's less real.


Did it at least help you in getting experience?



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07 Jan 2012, 1:26 pm

Iv gone thru life being too shy to date a 'normal' person in said 'normal' fashion, i used to think ppl wud just come to me and ask for a date but im shy so i must have given off shy-vibes (im coining that term right now).
Anyway after i realied that compatible men wont just trip up an fall in my life i started looking onlne. I think its the only way il meet someone with AS (i think id prefer this as we shud help each other out if we can:-) plus id love to be with someone unique). Im currently using the dating site on here and am actively looking on the forums, im hoping thats correct dating etiqutte.

Im in the pub typing on my phone so sorry for sp mistakes and abbreviations :-)



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07 Jan 2012, 2:33 pm

Here's a good reason for online dating.

You can find out information about the person right away and only pursue people who seem compatible. If a person has a dealbreaker such as they smoke, or aren't of the same faith as you, etc. then you will know right away.



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07 Jan 2012, 2:39 pm

Boxman108 wrote:
Maybe part of it is that I don't like to talk about myself because there is just so much negativity when I do. I'd like to be more optimistic, but then I can't seem to find the line between being humble and too self-absorbed.


I talk too fast when I talk about myself or one of my interests. I think that line is when they look bored.

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Did it at least help you in getting experience?


I guuuuuuuuuuuuuess. I learned that the picture is not always what they look like and that people can be jerks despite saying they are lds. :x


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07 Jan 2012, 6:14 pm

chrissyrun wrote:
I talk too fast when I talk about myself or one of my interests. I think that line is when they look bored.


Yeah. I mean I don't seem to have as much problems talking to people online in general. I feel more comfortable around people I've already spoken to before, but even then a lot of the time I find myself more worried about how I look or how I'm acting. Need to find a way to stop being so self conscious.


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08 Jan 2012, 5:55 pm

My one foray into online dating was without success I tried PoF. And as I've stated before I largely only got unattractive trailer trash. Not my cup of tea at all, not into 300 pound women, with kids, and no future.



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08 Jan 2012, 6:01 pm

minervx wrote:
Here's a good reason for online dating.

You can find out information about the person right away and only pursue people who seem compatible. If a person has a dealbreaker such as they smoke, or aren't of the same faith as you, etc. then you will know right away.


This is true, it also seems like an easier way to approach someone than it would be just to walk up to them in public and try to strike up a conversation.


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