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21 Jan 2012, 6:47 am

The harder I try to not disappoint anyone the more do. I either limit the lives of others because i cant cope with so much, or else I live in a constant state of meltdown due to trying to push myself beyond my limits. I am feeling do bad about myself right now that I want to physically hurt myself.



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21 Jan 2012, 7:43 am

Everything is gonna be fine, I guarantee that you will wake in a better place, and in a better time. Also, please don't hurt yourself, you will regret it and it will make those close to you feel sad, maybe you should talk to a friend about it, even if they can't help, it's just nice to tell somebody.


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21 Jan 2012, 7:51 am

I was just thinking a similar thing. But life changes. You can remember when times were good, right? If you hang in there, it will be like that again someday.

Try to think of a tiny thing that you could work on, and make it your pet project. When you feel that you want to hurt yourself, it means that you have nothing to lose. So you might as well try something new.

I am going to try to make a "fresh start" today. Let's do it together.



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21 Jan 2012, 11:48 am

Hi alexi,

Are there things that interest you? Like a hobby, or do you play an instrument? Or something you research?

Depression can be thick as a brick, and it can feel like drowning in a bottomless pit. It's worse when you don't have someone to talk to, or if anyone you may have tried to talk to doesn't understand how you feel. I have that problem too.

Things that makes me feel a little better is when I sketch or play music. Those are things I can get lost in and don't require interaction with anyone else.

Hurting yourself will only make things worse. Please don't.

There are people here who understand how you feel. This is like an alternate universe for people who need some social interaction and support from other people who do understand what you're going through.


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21 Jan 2012, 12:46 pm

Hi alexi

I agree with the others, things will get better. Do try to talk to someone, talking always helps. Don't hurt yourself that won't help anything.

Keep posting on here, lots of people who really understand how you are feeling will want to help xx



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21 Jan 2012, 1:09 pm

Is it so important that we live in a manner to not disappoint others?
Maybe it's better if we don't disappoint ourselves.


Try to imagine in your mind, a super hero who is your best friend. What super powers would he or she have?

And if your super hero best friend could make right all the "wrongs" in the world, what would you conquer together?


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22 Jan 2012, 12:24 am

Thankyou for your kind words. I am having a very difficult time at the moment. The people around me just can't seem to understand that just leaving my bedroom at the moment is like torture... No matter how many times I try to explain it. I agree that I need to speak to someone, my psychologist is away on holidays for a month, and I don't really have anyone else to turn to. I don't generally put a lot of importance in trying to please others, but lately I am being made to feel over and over that I am not making an effort...."high maintenance" was even thrown in there. I drag myself around crying and screaming inside, pretending that everything is fine, isn't that enough?!



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22 Jan 2012, 12:48 am

If you'd like you can pm me.

If you do, please know 2 things about me, I sometimes need time to respond, and I am only pre-self diagnosed. I'm looking into a professional diagnosis.

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22 Jan 2012, 12:48 am

and goodwitchy said it very well... be good and true to yourself and the rest will eventually start to make sense. have you hurt yourself before? can you talk to anyone around you?

just the fact that you are strong enough to post on this forum means that you have hope in you. tomorrow's going to feel a bit better, trust me. :-)