how to tell her to stop talking about her ex
idk. it really seems like shes making an effort to appease me and give me a shot, but when we talk its 'ex this.. ex that.. this one time he did this.. blah blah'. whenever were not talking about her ex, she runs out of steam, and doesnt carry the conversation at all. i have to constantly keep the conversation going basically alone lol. which is incredibly hard for me because small talk isnt exactly my strong suite. i think this is because she doesnt trust easily, and has a hard time letting me into her life and what not (as stated before), but idk.
and yea, i should probably just stop talking to her all together. i dont want to do that just yet, however. i want to give her a shot because i have a good feeling she would be a good match for me.
shes not always so bad at carrying conversations, but she does run out of steam pretty fast XD. i can tell shes very smart, and im attracted to her, and she has a good sense of humor.
so.. how do i tell her i dont want to talk about her ex boyfriend when she insists that she could talk about this subject for hours and never run out of things to say? i DO like talking to her, but i absolutely cannot stand listening to her talk about her ex.
would saying 'hey, i'd really appreciate it if we could stray away from the subject of your ex' work? what other things could i say instead?
Two words = chuck her.
Sounds harsh I know but until she's prepared to get over him (which right now clearly isn't the case) you are wasting your time.
He's certainly got a point. I think you need to bluntly tell her you're not interested in talking about her ex. My ex used to talk about his ex but after I told him I few times I weren't interested then he stopped. If she's still clearly into her ex then it might not be fair on you.
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thanks for all the support guys
our forum community is so awesome!
anyone know how to make the slightly empty feeling go away faster? or is this strictly a time-healing thing?
and, thinking positively, i did learn a lot about what to do, and what NOT to do. i just wish i could get over being a noob at all of this and actually make something work, or find a good opportunity / someone im interested in who will reciprocate.
It'll take as long as it does, you will know when you are ready to move on when you can let go and think nothing of what happened.
In my case it took about a year to recover and come to terms with what happened in the relationship. I can't say in your case as only you can... understand when it does not bother you.
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Sora: "My friends are my power."
Ventus: "I'm asking you as a friend. Just... put an end to me."
our forum community is so awesome!
anyone know how to make the slightly empty feeling go away faster? or is this strictly a time-healing thing?
and, thinking positively, i did learn a lot about what to do, and what NOT to do. i just wish i could get over being a noob at all of this and actually make something work, or find a good opportunity / someone im interested in who will reciprocate.
You sound like you're dealing with it like a top dude. Don't let it discourage you. Time and physical distance is what it takes, unless you can shut off your emotions. (I can do that sometimes, but then the human creeps back into me).
idk. it really seems like shes making an effort to appease me and give me a shot, but when we talk its 'ex this.. ex that.. this one time he did this.. blah blah'. whenever were not talking about her ex, she runs out of steam, and doesnt carry the conversation at all. i have to constantly keep the conversation going basically alone lol. which is incredibly hard for me because small talk isnt exactly my strong suite. i think this is because she doesnt trust easily, and has a hard time letting me into her life and what not (as stated before), but idk.
and yea, i should probably just stop talking to her all together. i dont want to do that just yet, however. i want to give her a shot because i have a good feeling she would be a good match for me.
shes not always so bad at carrying conversations, but she does run out of steam pretty fast XD. i can tell shes very smart, and im attracted to her, and she has a good sense of humor.
so.. how do i tell her i dont want to talk about her ex boyfriend when she insists that she could talk about this subject for hours and never run out of things to say? i DO like talking to her, but i absolutely cannot stand listening to her talk about her ex.
would saying 'hey, i'd really appreciate it if we could stray away from the subject of your ex' work? what other things could i say instead?
Have you banged her yet?
If not, then she is just putting you into the "friend zone" and trying to make herself feel more attractive.
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