Do you feel guilty for the way you are?

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I do not feel guilty over the way I am. I am happy with the way I am. I would not want to have been born any other way. I look back on my childhood and find it was magical in many ways. I enjoyed the way I played, and although I had a best friend, I cherished my alone time in my room with my things. I enjoyed being around my family. Today, as an adult, it doesn't bother me not socializing. I am satisfied with who I am.

Why on earth would I?

I yam what I yam, and that's all that I yam.

Shut up and eat yer spinach! <- that's for people who can't deal with it, not the OP

About the way I am? NO.
I do realize though, now, that I have hurt others without meaning too. I do feel some guilt about that. And that alone..

Sincerely,
Matthew

My guilt stems from my relationships with my peers and my parents. I've destroyed a relationship with my naive nature (not knowing when to not trust somebody) and I scrutinize my parents constantly for not understanding me.

No,I am proud to be an Aspie.I very much regret the family problems that being an Aspie created when I was younger but with awareness comes acceptance and forgiveness. I really didn't have conscious control of my behaviour in many situations .

I don't nessecarily feel guilty about who I am, but I do feel guilty about how I treat people sometimes. I try not to offend people, but I do, and it bothers me. I also get angry at stupid little things that wouldn't bother most people, and sometimes I just lash out and berate people who really don't deserve it. I hate how cold and aloof I come off to some people that I genuinely do care about and eventually my behavior drives people away. I know my flaws are related to AS, but I don't think it's a valid excuse. I make a conscious effort to fix my flaws, with mixed success, and when I can't change and be like I want it distresses me to no end. I just hate feeling defective.

There have been times in my life where I've been ashamed of who I am but now is not one of them. I used to think my opinions were worthless and that no one ever wanted to have me around. I was the smart kid who never talked until I went to high school.

I'm not ashamed of myself anymore because I know who I am and am proud of it. I have a career I want to pursue, decent grades, my family, my friends, and sports teams. All of these people and hobbies have helped me survive. I'm not afraid of life like I used to be. I've learned to deal with most challenges in life. I'm not entirely sure where my life is heading right now but it seems promising for the moment.

I didn't use to feel guilty, and I never thought anything was wrong with me either, although I can easily look back and say I've always been quite selfish regarding my time and effort to communicate and hang out with others. It wasn't until a couple of people said I hurt them terribly by just being me and saying what I was thinking that I started learning how to feel guilty about being me. For the first time ever, I am second guessing being me. I'm second guessing spending time at home putting together a puzzle or playing a video game instead of calling up some friends and asking them to hang out because I feel guilty at not making an effort every once in a while.

However, the part I'm also coming to accept is that if I do something out of guilt, then I also feel like I'm faking it, and I'm not going to enjoy my time as a result. Therefore, I don't want to be that kind of friend that starts to hate hanging out with my friends because I strong-armed myself into doing it.

Sometimes. But I don't know if it's AS related and I also think it's just personality related. Nothing to do with AS or NT I mean. Just it part of being me.

Sometimes I feel like a jerk because there are things out there that just bug me what people do and then I think of it as being their fault when they get bad treatment for it. I think either they quit caring about what people think of them or don't do it at all that causes people to think that of them but don't complain about it and never do a thing about it.

There have been things I did in the past I wish I never did and I feel I got what I deserved as a kid.

But it's never too late to change. I can dislike someone because of the way they are and I can end up liking them and respecting them if they've changed and never go back to their old ways. I think people who still dislike you for what you did in the past are the ones with the problem and it's their problem not yours. In some cases it is too late to change because if you do something really really bad like molest a kid or rape someone or kill someone then it's too late because then no one forgives you and to them you will never change even if you did.

Then there are other things I sometimes feel bad about because I am not good with emotional support and I don't know how to help someone if they are depressed. If all they do is complain complain complain about how bad their life is, it makes me uncomfortable and I have no idea how to help them. I am just sitting there hardly saying a word as if I don't care. I feel no matter what I say is the wrong thing because they take it the wrong way or get offended and it's like talking to a brick wall. I suspect it's the depression that makes them take things the wrong way what I say to them so they don't take me literal and they take it out of context. But at the same time it makes me very mad about how they act and not listen and how they twist my words around.

I wouldn't change who I am, even if it would kill me.

I do feel guilty or ashamed sometimes and I know it is not good.

I just feel that Asperger's makes things more difficult than they otherwise would be, but I would be a different person if I didn't have Asperger's.

I just feel misunderstood.