justalouise wrote:
Also just for the sake of discussion, a sentiment I am particular fond of regarding jealousy is that a common mistake people make by and large is to plainly reject it when they feel it. It's seen as so undesirable and unattractive that most people absolutely refuse to acknowledge what they're feeling, and we all know what happens you know try to do with that emotions...
It's hard to force yourself to do when you live in a culture (I'm in North America, don't know about you guys) that is utterly and entirely pain-avoidant. But jealousy doesn't magically dissipate when you ignore it--it only gets worse. If you can bring yourself to just admit to yourself that you're feeling jealous, and that it's OK, that it doesn't make you any less intelligent or loveable or whatever, then you can just plain experience it without having a load of guilt heaped on top. And that makes it soooo much easier to deal with (in my experience).
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Jealousy shouldn't be a taboo thing to talk about in a relationship either. People should sit down, talk about it, get to the root/cause/insecurity behind the feelings and be closer to one another as a result. Some people don't like to admit that they feel insecure though (pride).
Jealousy is insecurity,
it's a type of fear, feeling it doesn't make you a bad person at all. It's the actions people do based on the feelings (eg. control people) that are the bad thing.