I'm 25, and sadly (please don't laugh) I just started realizing I am a "grown up". When I was in my early 20's I acted like a belligerent teenager, and I was NOT ready to take on adult responsibilities. Even though I excelled in school throughout my life and scored relatively high on standardized IQ testing and graduated with honors from a great college, in terms of mental maturity and development I was way behind. All of the intelligence in the world doesn't help when you're emotionally underdeveloped.
I am behind in many ways, one example is I still have not figured out how to maintain friendships, it's just too stressful to me. I feel overwhelmed and irritated when too many people call and text me and demand my time. I need to be alone a lot. I know this is probably not healthy, but it's the least of my concerns.
Since I received my diagnosis I have been working on understanding myself, why I am different, and how to deal with these differences so I can be a fully functional and productive adult. I still have a lot of catching up to do, but I'm getting there. I just learned the most important thing I need to do is be patient with myself, know that I am in fact different, and to stop beating myself up over every failure. Just because I am different does not mean I do not deserve patience and kindness.
(Don't know if that answered your question or not)