Mayel wrote:
Zexion wrote:
Do you daydream and listen to music while you're walking? Why do you walk 2 hours a day?
Although this question wasn't directed towards me....I do that, too. Not 2 hours though. 1 hour is enough. I listen to music while walking. And I do that because this is the time when I can introspectively think about myself, my life, my feelings, but also the environment surrounding me, other people, what they think, how they might feel, philosophical and exestential stuff, encounters, the past, future and present...etc. Usually I'm busy doing things (related to my interests) so walking outside is the only time of the day I am really looking deeply into myself and others. It's the time I use to process everything I've gathered so far concerning the social realities of life. Music shields me from outside interference to this internal processing.
Anyway, 18 is not getting old. You still have plenty of time. If you go out into the world,...maybe do some "extracurricular activities", recreational activities, people may approach you. You never know. There's no point in giving up hope so early in life.
I asked because listening to music while pacing or walking is a sign of "Maladaptive Daydreaming Disorder" (which I have).
The only thing I do during my free time besides sitting infront of the computer is going running at least 4 times a week. I love running, I've been doing that for almost 3 years now, but the problem is that I'm always doing it in on my own. I don't get to know anyone while running in the woods. I did try some sports clubs as a kid (takewondo, tennis, football) and I always eventually left because I embarassed myself during the lessons and I was an outsider there as well.
TB wrote:
The problem is that i need to connect to people on a deeper level. Just talking about random gossip or the weather is not fulfilling this need i have.
Yeah, I feel the same. I find it hard to think of something interesting to talk about. I do have special interests but noone else would be interested in those.
TB wrote:
Basically going into hermit mode.
Going into hermit mode is just not the solution... I am tired of always going into hermit mode.
SteveBorg wrote:
I'm at a disadvantage in this topic, because I'm an NT. But I did want to point you to someone who is an Aspie and who's got a positive take on making friends. Brian King.
Here's a recent blog post he wrote on this topic: I hope it helps:
http://spectrummentor.com/profiles/blog ... ng-friendsThanks for that link. I'll check it out.
18 Mar 2012, 6:11 pm
