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kevinisginger
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18 Mar 2012, 6:53 pm

Does anyone ever feel like a big gaping hole is in them every time any person leaves their life? Can you see a cycle of patterns that you feel like your hands are behind your back even when the cycle is in plain view?



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18 Mar 2012, 7:14 pm

Yeah, with me the problem is I don't have too many close bonds to people not even my family. Once I fall in love with somebody, I fall hard. If that person leaves me it's like somebody pulled my heart out of my body. My last relationship break-up I ended up in the hospital for two weeks. It's almost been one year since he left me but I still hurt sometimes and I change as a person.



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18 Mar 2012, 7:17 pm

lostgirl1986 wrote:
Yeah, with me the problem is I don't have too many close bonds to people not even my family. Once I fall in love with somebody, I fall hard. If that person leaves me it's like somebody pulled my heart out of my body. My last relationship break-up I ended up in the hospital for two weeks. It's almost been one year since he left me but I still hurt sometimes and I change as a person.

I can relate on several levels, my relationship with my parents is s**t and I think that may be because I feel like I was abandoned in a harsher environment than what I grew up around. It's almost like I'm trying to fill a gap with someone else that they left, because i always thought those were the people that should love me most



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18 Mar 2012, 7:53 pm

kevinisginger wrote:
lostgirl1986 wrote:
Yeah, with me the problem is I don't have too many close bonds to people not even my family. Once I fall in love with somebody, I fall hard. If that person leaves me it's like somebody pulled my heart out of my body. My last relationship break-up I ended up in the hospital for two weeks. It's almost been one year since he left me but I still hurt sometimes and I change as a person.

I can relate on several levels, my relationship with my parents is sh** and I think that may be because I feel like I was abandoned in a harsher environment than what I grew up around. It's almost like I'm trying to fill a gap with someone else that they left, because i always thought those were the people that should love me most


Yeah, I don't have a deep emotional bond with my parents and I'm not really an overly emotional person to be around either. My dad doesn't show his emotions at all. When I fall in love I feel that emotional bond that I don't feel with anyone. I make the mistake of rushing into relationships and making them the center of my life. Oh well, we live we learn I guess.



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22 Mar 2012, 3:41 pm

Yes I can relate to feeling low when someone goes out of your life since as a kid I moved around often. As an adult I have moved around pretty often as well. It forces you to keep making friends again and again which is not always easy and I like the saying "to make a friend be a friend" or something like that. 8)


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