Most insulting thing . . .

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I was told today that I should not come here and that I should stop saying I am autistic. I was told "its like borrowing a wheelchair to go to the special olympics that's not fair to them". I was just like . . . wow . . . what do you say to that? Especially followed by "I do not care how autistic you are".

I can't really come here for a while anymore. my roommate swears that I am trying to piggyback off other people's problems . . which is not the case I came here to learn about myself and other people, but of course if i said that I would be making an argument and I always argue of course! It is never me making conversation it is always refuting therefore I am stubborn argumentative etc.

Oh well . . . -_- i guess this will be my last post for a while but . . . wow really.

Don't let anyone beat you down peeps!

Erm most disabled people don't keep telling people, that they disable.

Is what I think was meant by it. Depends why your saying your Autistic all the time. Might think your using it as an excuse kind of thing. Like sympathy.

Might just be over doing the word? or not. Maybe bad mood of the other person? or bad person?.

1. Don't stop visiting/posting at this site if you don't want to.

2. Tell your room mate that he/she doesn't get to pick your friends, or the sites you visit. And if he kicks up a fuss refer him to the Constitution.

3. Don't discuss your disorder, or other health issues, or financial issues, with others except on a "need to know" basis.

Your room mate doesn't need to know. Unfortunately, you have already discussed this with them, but you can still refrain from discussing it any further with this person. In future, don't bring it up, and if they do, tell them that the subject is off limits, and change to a different subject.

4. You need a new room mate. This one is not a match, whether as romance, or friend, or just a room mate.

Now, unless you plan on being this person's slave, tell the overbearing room mate you will live your life your way:!:

Don't listen to her. Ignore her and keep posting. If she says any more comments, show her the door.

Just ignore them, they have no right to tell you that you can't come here. What's wrong with going on this website? The way I see it, it's like telling somebody to stop using Facebook or YouTube.

Why ever would your room-mate have any say over what you can and can't do?

Tell your roommate where s/he can shove that comment. (hint: it's where the sun don't shine)

I'm not an Aspie either, but I have both NVLD and ADD, which makes me a Spectrum Kid I find this site so helpful, and it helps me to come up with some solutions that I never would've thought of.

My Autism Spectrum Quotient (if I got the term right) is 37, which is pretty low, but still, this site helps me.

So why can't it help you? If you're on the spectrum, come here! If you're not on the spectrum but have trouble with social skills, come here! If you're 100% NT but just think we're pretty cool people ( ) come here!

Seriously, you are welcome here, and don't let anyone get you down.

I have not really mentioned being an aspie all that much. She has been having hard times, me too. In all fairness the whole story of our association is too long for the telling (over 7 years worth) but I had to . .. well talk about it I did not like the comment but I am not that good with ppl as to just tell her.

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Yeah, over-using it IS a bad thing, but it doesn't give people the right to become insulting. They could have phrased it differently. But well, they're only "human".

The problem is that this is not something that people can see, which is why it's different to being in a wheelchair or being blind. Because many people won't be able to tell "what's wrong with you".

I can see their reasons for being annoyed, but it's not making their lives more difficult.


Yeah, it's weird.

My stepdad is similar. He saw me reading "be different" by John elder Robison and told me I don't have aspergers. He tried to be nice about it and said nothing was wrong with me. He doesn't believe it's a real diagnosis and I have a real diagnosis from a professional. It hurts but I didn't show it, I just agreed so he would shut up.

Does he have a Ph.D in neurology? Nooo?

Is he a medical professional or psychologist? Nooo?

Is his name God, Allah, Buddha, Vishnu, Thor, or some other supreme being? Nooo?

Well then. He has no business deciding whether or not you're disabled anyway.

Many of us have "special interests." For a lot of us, that special interest becomes Autism when we first begin to learn about it.

Many of us monologue about our special interests, not uncommonly to the point of driving others around us absolutely bonkers. Some just don't want to hear about it all the time. Sounds like you may have overloaded your room mate with it.

Just keep posting and try not to bring it up so much to others in real life. If you have to, save it for the forums.

If you feel comfortable here and can relate to those you meet here then why would you stop coming here? Because nosy roommate says so? Me thinks the roommate needs to be cut out of the loop...

I do not mention it that much at all. I was just frustrated a few days ago because the doctor I wanted to see is booked. And I got upset but I still did not mentioned it. I remembered the main reason behind the argument. She was saying that since I came here I was acting like a total b***h and probably piggyback riding off other people's problems.

We have had this argument before, so I would quit coming here. We actually had a long talk last week about everything, because she wanted to know. About why I did/say certain things and acted a certain way. I laid it down for her. I have brought autism up in the past and she has said before she thought it was an excuse for me to be immature.

I thought she finally understood why I sometimes cant handle things.

She said you may not always know how to act, but you are old enough how not to.

I guess what made me the maddest was that she said I did not have meltdowns. That 30 mins is not a meltdown and I should know it.

I don't know. I have not mentioned the incident to her again and im am damn sure I wont bring autism up to her ever again.

I just wanted to be understood.