Angry with my Mother

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I'm really angry at my Mother right now. She took my dog for a walk (and he gets unruly walking a new route), she broke a stick from the hedge and hit him out of anger. She actually said that she hit him out of revenge. I said to her that there was no justifying it and she said that if she wasn't a responsible person she would have just made him make his own way home.

My dog is one of the sweetest living beings that I have had the pleasure to know in my life. He's a bit boisterous but he is sweet and would never deserve to be harmed (if there's any reason to harm anything). I'm furious at her and really want to deal some of the same at her but I'm well aware that harming another creature based on rage is wrong (unlike her). I'm stuck, I have a huge amount of stress at the moment and really shouldn't have to be dealing with this behavior from my Mother of all people.

I'm 29 btw and living at home because I'm back at college and couldn't afford it otherwise, my Mum couldn't afford to live here either without me here. I try my utmost to treat her in a respectful manner but she keeps on acting like an awful B***H.

I needed to rant about this so now I can go have a good cry and after the good cry I'm going to try list my Mothers few good points so I can try act with kindness and respect towards her again. I feel like she's trying to kill my daughterly love for her bad act by bad act.

1. Don't let her walk the dog again.

2. As soon as you are done with school and can afford to do so, move out. You have enough to deal with, without added stress from your mom's behavior issues.

3. Don't fret about her being able to afford to live without you there. She has alternatives.

- She can work/ or if working, work more hours.
- Work out a budget to see where her money is going, and cut back on non essential expenses.
- Move to a cheaper home/apartment.
- Take in a boarder.
- Apply for housing assistance money from welfare.

Sweet Pea hugs

If your mum asks if she can walk your dog, tell her no.

I understand what you guys are saying. Thank you for your responses.

Regarding my dog, when I'm at college she's taking care of the dog for me and my bf. Also, she's been walking the dog for three months before this happened (today's the first time it's happened).

I have tried in the past to tell her not to do things but she'll still do them. She has called to say sorry to me but it's not me that she should be saying sorry to and Toby (the dog) has already forgiven her.

Regarding your advice questor, I understand that your advice is well meant and I appreciate your time and energy.

Thank you for your hug CockneyRebel, I really appreciate it.

(Following added later)
Oh, I just remembered. Toby has figured out how to let me know that someone did something he has problems with (he growls at that person when I'm near that person but not when I'm not near), also I know when he's not happy (when he's heard lots of odd loud noises, been bored or other negative things) he has nightmares.

Animal abuse is just plain wrong in so many ways! If it continues, you need to either move out of there along with your dog, or report your mother to the local animal protection authority (such as the Humane Society). I would absolutely not tolerate another instance of it.

She sounds unreasonable...I would just never let her walk your dog again and nurse your poor buddy. She clearly doesn't understand animals, like most people don't.