Two-Thirds of Kids With Autism Have Been Bullied: Study

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11 Apr 2012, 7:41 pm

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Well I guess everyone who made my childhood hell had no idea they where doing anything wrong, by delibritly trying to make me feel like crap. Sorry I just really don't think it was all in my head, I realize there are misunderstandings between people but that does not really explain why someone would want to delibritly cause harm to someone who hasn't really done anything to them at all.


No doubt that some people are mean, they know they are mean, and they enjoy dominating others, regardless of how the other person feels about it; there is no age limit for that, although it appears to be more prevalent in school age children.

However, if one lives long enough, they will eventually experience humility.

All types of crime have gone down steadily since 1991, including homicides, and even serial killings. Teengage pregnancies have gone down as well.

I've had the contention for along time that it is digital media/video games/ internet/pornography, etc. that is making a difference, because it provides a virtual interactive outlet for all types of human behavior, that otherwise would likely occur in real life. Some researchers are finally providing empirical evidence that this may be the case.

One would hope that the same could apply to bullying behavior; if the bully is inside playing a video game, they are not in the playground beating up or berating, a succeptible individual. Not sure what difference it would make though, on the school grounds during school hours; and I can't find any evidence that the incidences of bullying are going down over a longitudinal period, from the statistics that are available.

Unfortunately, cyber-bullying is an increasing phenomenon that can be psychologically damaging as well; in part, it may be taking the place of playground bullying. The cyber bullying, may also take the place of some of the physical bullying, but only the individual recepient can judge which type of behavior hurts more.



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17 Apr 2012, 6:10 am

Lately people have become more aware of the problem some people have with being bullied. Now it's a big topic in the media. Almost as though it never happened before. I just don't understand why all of a sudden the attitude has changed.

It used to be when someone is being harrassed you were told to ignore it, learn how to deal with it. Now you read in the newspapers, hear on tv, radio that people are killing themselves because of this. Is this something new? I don't know.

People's attitudes have changed on this topic. Years ago you were told if you were the victim to not allow it to bother you. You should ignore it. Do you think that commiting suicide is something new? If it is why?

Honestly I think it makes more sense for the people who are being bullied to become stronger by ignoring these awful people than getting the bullies to stop their actions. They could feel better knowing that they are capable of taking care themselves, there's no need to feel helpless. I just feel as though there is a chance that people who will get so depressed over this kind of situation just might do the same thing for another reason. After all not everyone who is bullied decides to kill themselves.

Bullying is not pleasant. But isn't it just part of human nature. I used to go to Al-Anon meetings where we were taught that we cannot change someone else, but we can certainly change ourselves.



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17 Apr 2012, 12:30 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
Well I guess everyone who made my childhood hell had no idea they where doing anything wrong, by delibritly trying to make me feel like crap. Sorry I just really don't think it was all in my head, I realize there are misunderstandings between people but that does not really explain why someone would want to delibritly cause harm to someone who hasn't really done anything to them at all.


I have not intended to say it was all in your head... I am stating that it is our perceptions that drive us... PERCEPTION IS EVERYTHING...

You were made to feel like crap.

The kids who have to deal with peer pressured are bullied, but in a different manner... especially since they feel that failing to live up to the standards of their peer group will result in ridicule.

I was (documented) bullied by a teacher in the gifted program. In our school district, teachers were required to take the same tests and have it on record. I scored 99th percentile and was the only student to beat her on the placement exams. (the other students had snooped hers out)...

My best friend, Tex was physically bullied until I stepped in...

I personally feel that they knew WHAT they were doing, not it's effects... nor why they were doing it...

Being a primate explains why... it does not excuse it... it only makes it all the more sad that the unable to overcome their simian instincts... and makes them all the less worthy of consideration


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18 Apr 2012, 6:25 am

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