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Hi to everyone at Wrong Planet. I am NT (aged 55) and my husband has recently self-diagnosed as being on the Asperger spectrum, and has made an appointment seeking official confirmation, which we both assume will be the case. It is a second marriage for both of us, and whilst things were wonderful for the first couple of years we have been increasingly at cross-purposes during the past 5 - 6 years.

A recent crisis brought us almost to breaking point, and when a family member finally voiced their opinion to me re AS, many pennies began dropping - and so much which had mystified me over the past few years began to make sense. Then, when we spoke to my husband, he (after some initial resistance) did some online diagnostic tools, and when they pointed very strongly towards AS, he experienced a profound sense of relief. I have been frantically trawling the internet in search of information and guidance, and that is how I found my way to Wrong Planet. The forum discussions I've been reading here have been very illuminating - so much so that I can feel the fog beginning to clear around me. I look forward to learning more as I become more familiar with your online community. I very much appreciate the opportunity to learn from people who are so honest, forthright and supportive.

Welcome to WP!

Welcome to WP. Hope you like it here.

hi,

i'm a 55 yo who has AS and has been married to a pesron who happens to behave NT for three happy years.

Well I am glad that we have been of some use, I hit a horrible crisis some years ago. I thought that I was about to get divorced but I managed to work through my problems, some of the wrong planet crowd were good to me. When I had the crisis I did not know that I was an aspie, my wife had been saying it for years but I refused to believe it.

During the crisis I thought seriously about my AS/non-AS status for the first time in my life and then I got a new insight into myself. I think that the new insight saved my marrige, in the end my wife got diagnosed as having AS/HFA as well so I think I live in the house of AS.

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Health is a state of physical, mental and social wellbeing and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity I am not a jigsaw, I am a free man !

Diagnosed under the DSM5 rules with autism spectrum disorder, under DSM4 psychologist said would have been AS (299.80) but I suspect that I am somewhere between 299.80 and 299.00 (Autism) under DSM4.

Welkome to WP

Mick