Perceived as arrogant at work?

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This is mostly just out of curiosity. I was called today and told by a buddy/boss of mine that he spoke to other people I work with and they said I'm too arrogant/have a bad attitude. I know this is quite a common occurrence for me, and not so much due to actually trying to be a jerk - but just because of how I am looked at by others. My mother even mentioned when I was younger (like early grade school), the teachers would complain they "felt" me glaring at them as they taught. So - hence the poll.

Feel free to explain. I'm just curious to make myself feel better - since that's sort of a harsh blow.

*** This is work related so I posted it here, I am talking about work related behavior.

I have often been told that I am arrogant and insubordinate at work. I think that it often has to do with the fact that I am not as clueless as many of my supervisors and co-workers, I don't make a secret of it, and they don't like me much because of it. I am trying to soften my approach a little to see if that helps. I have also had people feel this way about me my whole life.

So what your trying to say is we are arrogant...

No, I don't believe I am. No one has said anything to that effect anyway... >.>

It's a common perception of Aspies. I think the reason is just because we don't observe all the NT niceties.

By neither the plebs nor the hoi polloi nor the rabble nor the unwashed masses am I perceived as arrogant or supercilious; rather, all have proclaimed the common touch indubitably possessed by NeantHumain. Although I may not partake of American-style football or NASCAR racing myself, I have many friends and business associates who own NFL teams and sponsor NASCAR racers.

Were I ever wrong, I would own up to it immediately, but I never am. I don't see how any of us could be so wrongly regarded as arrogant.

The current poll results are in my favor.

People say to me that i come across as rude and arrogant as well.

When I try to act like NT at work they laugh at me. I'm not good at faking it, and it's grade school all over again. However when I don't fake it and just go along normally then people call me stupid ret*d, etc. They say females are supposedly better at faking NT behavior but I have not been able to, and so distancing myself from co-workers makes me appear to be arrogant.

Yes, I have been. When I see someone making stupid mistakes, I have a hard time just letting it slide, and it angers them sometimes.

Fior lost his last job due to "him not being a team player". He has a flat affect when stressed (work was a huge stressor), a "formal" way of talking in casual situations, and he could not fake "being nice".

He got canned and replaced by someone less skilled, but "easier to get along with.".

His boss said he acted like an arrogant ass. Fior is generally terrified of making mistakes. He OVER explains things because of mind numbing anxiety.

Work thought he was arrogant. Fior was scared out of his mind.

I couldn't agree more!! !!
Why are NTs such jerks in work situations?
Don't they know, we will soon OUTNUMBER them?

since we are unable to socialise and be extra friendly we are considered arrogant.
atleast in my case i have been considered more of a dumb

I don't see much changing in the workplace these days until more HR managers are aware of Aspergers/Autism and know how to deal with it.

This.

I got railroaded out of my first job (age 16-23) because I told my supervisor she was wrong and pointed out why since I had 6 more years experience doing it. I wasn't malicious: I just don't like letting mistakes happen. Guess some people can't handle the truth. Good riddance though because I was doing a heck of a lot of work for $8 an hour! I'm not arrogant (in fact I have the opposite problem) but I know I'm 100% right I will NEVER back down!



Luckily my HR manager pretty much knows I have Aspergers (told me flat out she thought I had very mild autism and never heard of AS) and has been so supportive. She has practically become a life coach for me to which I am forever grateful. Too bad that's usually not the case. Those on the spectrum have some amazing talents if they are given the opportunity to show them but sadly rarely are.