I have this same dilemma with friends, and with employers too. I always feel too embarrassed to tell people, being that it has caused so much grief in my life and makes me do stupid weird things and it just makes it harder to open up about it to people. They might not think anything of it, but I'm always afraid they might if I told them. I know that just because I'm ashamed of my condition it doesn't mean other people will be, but because it is lodged in my mind that I hate the condition so much, it kind of affects how I want other people to perceive me.
I know it will explain my oddities more, and people might become more tolerant of some of my odd ways because, if they are nice enough, they will just think, ''well she has got AS'', and so they won't have to be afraid of why I'm sometimes odd any more. My mum always says that anyway. But it's how I feel too. I don't really like going around telling everyone about it, especially when they know a bit about it or read up on it and only look at the stereotypes and the myths and judge me by them, and because I don't show the stereotypes and myths (like being obsessed with Star Trek, being good at maths, being ''geeky'', wearing glasses, etc), I don't have any of them listed, they might think I'm lying just to cover up my odd ways. It's actually happened before, when I was being bullied, I said, ''I told you before, I have a disability'', and they just said, ''no you don't, you have to look different to be on the Autism spectrum, and you don't look different, you're just weird and stupid!'' and I wish I had of said, ''what do you know about AS?!''
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