Joe90 wrote:
Actually, I'm quite the opposite. I find I'm so attached to my mum that I spend most of my time with her, and waiting for her if I'm not with her, and feeling lonely when she's not with me. My dad often says, ''it's OK, mummy will be home soon'' in a sarcastic voice, which irritates me because it is a different kind of attachment as to how a small child would be.
I'm like that with my Mum. We had a few years where are relationship went a bit wrong (my fault, not hers) but now we are super close. I don't live with her any more but I phone her every day at least once and text her as well.
It's a different story with my Dad, he is a nice man and was a reasonable father (certainly much better than many) but I don't feel a connection to him at all. I don't think he feels one for me either. I think I am a disappointment to him. For a long time that bothered me, but now I am a wee bit older I have managed to let that go and I don't feel guilty that we aren't closer. Neither of us are bad people, we are just ill suited.