Where are you successful with men / women?

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Hi,

A positive topic ! This is a thread where you can share which places work for you in the love and dating game. As in, which places you have the most success picking up men or women. You can feel free to discuss or brainstorm if you aren't successful and let's try not to judge someone's choice for how they meet people. Okay! Here goes:

*I find pubs make life easier. As in local bars with regular customers.
*Activity groups.
*Places where people share common professional goals and schedules (work, education).

Your turn!

Nowhere.

I have no social groups available to me, except church, which I don't believe in.
There are no "Pubs" here. The closest equivalent is 18 miles away.
Work/school. Well, I'm still stuck with the same types of people who are everywhere else, since I've been told It's unacceptable to tell you how I really feel about them, suffice it to say, I'm not going to talk to any of them.

I suppose I could go hang out in the parking lot of Wal-Mart like all the other guys my age do, but I don't have a jacked up redneck-mobile to mindlessly rev.

How about a vacation somewhere you always wanted to go, with a friend or two?
If things go wrong, no one will be the wiser it stays there. If things go great, it's a social / dating / other experience you can look back on!

Well, that sucks.
Anyone else?

I like this topic.
I do pretty well in classroom settings, formal ed. and "community center" style. Probably because it's a structured environment I'm familiar with and feel safe in. Also I get an opportunity to get noticed for a thoughtful question or helpful suggestion instead of just my looks.
I also tend to have a easier time being social when there is alcohol involved just because I relax and get goofy fun. I usually stick to strictly platonic situations when I might be drunk though because I'm wary of potential problems there.

School (I've dated several college professors)
and online

not actually.
everywhere i'm at, i am either in the mindset for the moment (the hobby the group is for (travelling, shopping), or i need too much energy to survive the sensory overload (pubs, bars, clubs), making it almost inpossible to do more then socially obligated responses in any non-home situation...

Traveling but mainly friends of friends. Just walking upto people doesn't work for me. I need to get more of a feel and I think the cold aproach doesn't happen that much anyway.
I'm thinking of taking some classes, languages, dance and rockclimbing. I took a course before and I had a few good shots with a few girls but I was completly oblivius. I'm thinking about volenteering too.

When I'm out with friends having fun
When I'm in a class I'm good at, and can help others to get better. Got to admit I get high on the admiration and gratefulness, and become quite the smooth talker.
When I find someone with similar interests and get into a stimulating conversation.
Sometimes I just randomly feel very good about myself, and can be social. Likewise, sometimes I'll randomly feel like crap, but this topic should be kept positive.
When doing something geeky, because I know I can feel at ease with whoever is there.
When doing some sort of sport, exhaustion somehow gives me a pleasant afterglow.

Good thread, got to think more positive and see the bright spots.

I'm just not successful with women, no matter where I am.

I'm not successful with women anywhere.

Work and through friends of friends either clubbing or on holiday. I've had girls that were into me while doing courses, I just wasn't into them, but it didn't stop me flirting and being friendly back.

I don't get out to a lot of places, because I don't have a car, and public transportation isn't very good where I live. For example, the bowling alley is too far from where I live, and if I take the bus the latest I could stay would probably be 6pm if I want to catch my ride back home.
The only places I frequent are work, the comic book shop, the grocery store, and the plasma donation center. The only time I ever see women in the comic shop is if they're with their boyfriends/husbands.

I have them get maternal around me.


I then scare them away by staring.


Therefore, I can not offend them further.


That is how I am successful

It's moreso when (as in what times am I success or why (as in why am I talking to this person?) that made the difference for me, as opposed to where, that dictated my success with women. In my past, I used to meet women for the purpose of being in a relationship, regardless of the medium. Now, I can converse easier on the internet (at least in real-time chat; forum-style is a different story). However, the only way I actually figured this out was because I took a step back and said "I'm not looking for a relationship right now."