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12 Aug 2012, 12:10 am

I never thought I was one of those people that would get upset about a disruption in my routine, mostly because I couldn't really pinpoint anything I could classify as a routine...until the other day when one of my, aparently very real, routines was, well, interrupted. It's not something I do every single day because I only do it when I have a certain kind of food to pair it with (It's a running youtube series I watch) and the other day there was a new episode and I had my snack to go along with it and then my sister beat me to the computer and started doing some s**t on itunes and I was just like

"......"

I was actually confused for a second and remember thinking "But I need the computer, my food is getting cold, why is she on it when I need it?!" Even though I never told her that so she would have no idea, which I later realized after thinking for a second.

After that I was able to identify some little things that I do every single day that I never really thought about until now but that I might get annoyed/upset if I suddenly couldn't do them for some reason.

So I guess my question is: Just how upset do you get or have you gotten when one of your routines is interrupted or you are kept from completing them properly?



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12 Aug 2012, 12:14 am

its upsetting depending on how big of a disruption it is. used to be worse but I have gotten over it, kind of.



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12 Aug 2012, 12:55 am

If I know the disruption is coming I can prepare for it and deal with it better. If its completely unexpected I can get stressed very quickly. Not as often will I hit meltdown mode anymore but occasionally it happens, usually I get grumpy and will take a while to refocus



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12 Aug 2012, 1:24 am

My day is pretty ritualized, but I have kind of a series of planned routines to work from. If I'm late for X, I switch to ritual series Y and so on so I can adapt. Things get dropped along the way though so I really prefer to (and function better when I can) stick to my main routine. For example, 3 days last week I woke up late because of trouble sleeping and had to get my coffee from a vendor instead of taking the time to make it myself and the switch meant that for 3 days I forgot to put on my watch. It seems totally unrelated but it's all tied together by the routine.
I don't have meltdowns about the shifts, but they definitely raise my stress level and contribute to slightly less good days.



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12 Aug 2012, 1:57 am

sedods wrote:

I was actually confused for a second and remember thinking "But I need the computer, my food is getting cold, why is she on it when I need it?!"


That is actually a very relatable feeling for me, but I could not like, put words to it. That is sort of the way routines go for me. Like I do not sit to draw at the same time every day or do it everyday, but when I do I get really upset if I have to get up to do something before I am doing with 2-4 pieces.

coolies wrote:
If I know the disruption is coming I can prepare for it and deal with it better. If its completely unexpected I can get stressed very quickly. Not as often will I hit meltdown mode anymore but occasionally it happens, usually I get grumpy and will take a while to refocus


Same here.



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12 Aug 2012, 1:59 am

I find it very very hard, I find it a lot harder as an adult than I did as a child. Certain areas of my day are more acceptable for disruption but I need prior warning, I hate suprises.



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12 Aug 2012, 3:03 am

I don't have many routines just due to the fact that if my routines get interrupted I get really annoyed and then see no point in them, although because of this my life is in chaos. The few routines I do have are all to do with food, like I always drink out of the same glass, I have a tea mug and hot chocolate mug, I eat the parts in a sandwich separately etc. I always eat porridge for breakfast so if there aren't any oats left I just don't eat anything even though there's bread and other cereals I can have.


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12 Aug 2012, 3:40 am

I'm routine, routine is me. Nevertheless I work and live on a commune. Territory and control are scarce. "Socialism is like the ocean, never turn your back on it" is one my unserenity prayers. That said, this particular commune is characterized by many hard & fast rules and "norms" so, in some respects, it's not as quite as chaotic as certain cultures in the mainstream. But work tools disappear, new faces continually appear and interpersonal dramas flare all the time. I deal with it by being nocturnal. I don't mind sleeping people as much as conscious ones. I make hammocks, all night long, for a living and have my work scene under reasonable control. I could have done worse. Disruption in routine gets me unhappy quick.


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12 Aug 2012, 4:09 am

When my routine gets disrupted I feel uncomfortable, nervous, and in shock at the same time!! 8O


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12 Aug 2012, 5:30 am

I don't have many routines just due to the fact that if my routines get interrupted I get really annoyed and then see no point in them, although because of this my life is in chaos. The few routines I do have are all to do with food, like I always drink out of the same glass, I have a tea mug and hot chocolate mug, I eat the parts in a sandwich separately etc. I always eat porridge for breakfast so if there aren't any oats left I can't eat anything else.


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12 Aug 2012, 6:28 am

I get very upset if my routine is changed, in the worst case scenario I will cry. Last week the soup that I eat every day was sold out along with the seeds that are my weekly treat. I was completely at a loss, I didn't know what to eat (so I ate nothing) and my whole evening was ruined.



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12 Aug 2012, 10:42 am

Breaking or interfering with, or interrupting any routine of mine, is a bad thing. I have a really tough time with it. I have slated a certain base template for my day's activities, and anything coming in the way of that, will cause the whole day to get SNAFU'd and put me in a tense mood. Even if I oversleep a half hour, that's enough of a dent in the schedule to cause me trouble. I eat the exact same breakfast 365 days/year (366 on leap years), and that's regardless of where I am, or what I'm doing. If I'm going to be someplace I can't have it, I plan around that and make sure I can have it.

Another example of disrupting my routine would be any and all of the zillion changes and updates to computer software and Windows, and the almost daily changes to forums and websites. I'm a functioning and somewhat successful businessman, so I have to tolerate those things and get past them, but it's an annoyance to have to do so!

I also don't like to change what I drive. I've had Toyota trucks since I started driving in 1984, and although I'm a car and truck hobbyist, my daily driver has always been a Toyota truck. I just bought a brand new one in July, and it's the same model number as my previous one (2005), and I'm even going to buy the same custom wheels and tires for it. Boring? Not to me! Now I just need to get the courage to sell the old one, and the other old one before that one, which are still sitting here costing upkeep. I have a problem parting with them, until I'm "sure the new one will do".

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12 Aug 2012, 3:30 pm

This is one of my big problems. I get very upset if my routine is disrupted in any way. For example, I was flyfishing on a pool on a stream lately that I always fish this time of year, because I catch a certain kind of trout species here like clock work. I caught this large trout, and rather than be happy with my catch, I was upset because it was a species I catch all the time in other not so special places. This caused a meltdown. How dare an unexpected event disrupt my special routine at this spot.



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12 Aug 2012, 5:23 pm

When my routine gets disrupted I become really cranky and easily irritated. Especially if it is a without warning. If I can plan for the disruption I am usually still cranky but less likely to have a meltdown or any physical effects of the disruption, like a headache.


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12 Aug 2012, 8:10 pm

A change in routine generally upsets me a great deal. If you tell me in advance and/or provide a well though out and scheduled alternative then I'm fine with that



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12 Aug 2012, 8:36 pm

in the past three days, I can tell you of at least three things that made my anxiety shoot thru the roof just because what I planned to do with my day was disrupted by something out of my control. It surprised me to see how upset I was about seemingly minor things.

I babysat, and I was told it was going to be a certain length of day with the kids (who I love and enjoy) and when the mom came early to pick them up I felt like the rest of my plans for the day were just erased from me without my control. Like, ack! Even though I really needed a nap, and probably didn't need the kids for another two hours, the disappointment in the sudden "surprise" shift in schedule threw me off.

And she usually pays me on Fridays for the days I already babysat and she came to my house with no money and said she would have to do an "IOU" which, I know what that means in general, but in this specific situation I dont know when or how much she will be paying me, so not knowing, when I had expected her to pay me as usual on Friday, totally sent me into like a panic, like churning in the center of my stomach to negative thoughts like "Does that mean she will never pay me?" and feeling depressed.

Then Saturday I was supposed to dog sit for a neighbor and I had been told it would be "all day" and feeding the dog twice and letting her out three times. So In the AM when I went over to get her and give her breakfast and she wasn't there (she gets dropped off by the boyfriend of the owner) I about spazzed out. I probably sounded likea spaz when I texted the owner like "Uh, let me know if (the dog's) plans changed because she wasn't dropped off yet". Sigh. But it made me very upset because I had been told one thing, and it wasn't panning out. I essentiallyhad to go take a nap and lay in the dark because I was so disturbed that I didn't know what time I was getting the dog.

Let's just do it like we said we would do it, people! :D


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