Asperger's And Maturity: How slow did you grow up?

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Xenophobitress
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21 Aug 2012, 4:03 pm

And what age did you wish you were? Sometimes I wanna be like 13 again and I'm 18, but 18 is the prime if you let it be!



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21 Aug 2012, 4:15 pm

I feel immature, but people say that my behavior fluctuates. Sometimes I may behave like a grandfather.

Xenophobitress wrote:
And what age did you wish you were?


A very hard question. Can I eliminate bullying from the equation? I would like to say sixteen, but I don't want to return my high school horror show.


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21 Aug 2012, 5:10 pm

i wanna be 10 again. ^_^


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21 Aug 2012, 5:25 pm

Can I be 16 again with enough self-esteem to realize there are actually some girls who are into me. There's a few I can think back on, man how I could be so oblivious. Then I remember the six year frienemie I had who ground my self-esteem into the dirt. I had come to believe the put downs and was ignorant to female interest for quite some time, even though I can recall a few times where only a verbal announcement would have been any clearer.

At 30 I feel like I should've known what I do now at least, at least, 10 years ago. Ah well, it's better than being an NT to me!



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21 Aug 2012, 6:35 pm

I'm going to turn 28 in less than a month, and it seems like in most aspects of my life it's like I'm 21. I have one year of college left, and my overall life skills are <= that age, typically. I played with kids' toys well into my teens, only developed "teen" interests in my late teens/early 20's, and took until my mid-20's to truly figure out what I wanted to go to school for. I've been told I have the energy of a 12-year-old.

So I think it may be a good thing if I was legally 21 or 22.


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21 Aug 2012, 7:01 pm

I was 80 when I was 5, my wife now says I am about 12 and I am physically 35. I figure in a few years I will be a zygote.



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21 Aug 2012, 7:33 pm

24 and still not grown up yet :?


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21 Aug 2012, 7:54 pm

I'm 14, and want to be 3 :P.
I don't think my online friends think I'm immature, but my mum says I'm 10, which is something I agree with :P.


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21 Aug 2012, 8:10 pm

Though I'm 37 years old, I'll feel like a 21 year old 60s Mod forever. 8)


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21 Aug 2012, 8:12 pm

I dont feel as though im grown up like others my age but it doesnt bother me cus i enjoy being like this. I sometimes have my moments where i just feel as toddler and other times as a child or a preteen. I've always wished i was 4 again. I just feel so uninterested in doin stuff other people my age are doin like figuring out what career i wanna do and goin to college i would rather go to the store and buy doll clothes for my dolls :D



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22 Aug 2012, 12:31 am

I'm 25 and can't wait to get into my 30s, most of my friends are either teenagers or late 30s/early 40s and I'm hoping that by the time I get to that age, I'll actually have friends my own age!



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23 Aug 2012, 2:11 am

SpectrumWarrior wrote:
Can I be 16 again with enough self-esteem to realize there are actually some girls who are into me. There's a few I can think back on, man how I could be so oblivious. Then I remember the six year frienemie I had who ground my self-esteem into the dirt. I had come to believe the put downs and was ignorant to female interest for quite some time, even though I can recall a few times where only a verbal announcement would have been any clearer.

At 30 I feel like I should've known what I do now at least, at least, 10 years ago. Ah well, it's better than being an NT to me!


Could you elaborate this experience, please? I am interested because I believe I'm dealing with the same situation.



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23 Aug 2012, 3:14 am

I'm not sure what growing up is or looks like.

I played starvation-level pro rock & roll until the age of 35.

Thought I would get a book published until age 50.

Now it's too late to grow up, I've already grown old.

Without much growing to show for it all.


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23 Aug 2012, 3:56 am

i often feel socially more comfortable with people who are a few years younger than me. many parts of me are still child like, most of all my insecurities and self esteem issues, though they rarely surface. usually surface when i loose a job. I hate feeling inadequate, it sets my confidence back so far, for a short time


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23 Aug 2012, 4:09 am

so_subtly_strange wrote:
i often feel socially more comfortable with people who are a few years younger than me. many parts of me are still child like, most of all my insecurities and self esteem issues, though they rarely surface. usually surface when i loose a job. I hate feeling inadequate, it sets my confidence back so far, for a short time


Can totally relate to that- when I was at school, most of my friends were 4-5 years younger than me and now I'm friends mainly with people either 5-10 years younger or 5-15 years older! At some point, I'll have friends my own age...