I come to a realization....
Well if men listened more, they'd know more
Then you would need this book to help translate. Im working my way true it now and appears to be well thought out and researched.
i tend to think that same-sex couples have as many issues with communication as opposite-sex couples (regardless of gender). communication is hard, and it's easier to blame the problems on supposed gender differences than actually working on understanding each other.
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This.
Aspergia for Aspies! Seriously, we need our own town. If the neurotypicals need a carrot for that, they could use us as guinea pigs on researching how an Aspie-only society is different from the NT one.
WTF, I don't know like any people with Aspergers in real life. Seriously, I've known probably under a dozen. I think too much on this board, people equate Aspergers and nerd together, and it doesn't work that way. I can say the "nerd" social groups have been slightly more accepting of me, but only slightly, but I don't fit in well with them either.
Besides, ntz talk liek diz yo.
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Now, I came into another realization:
I can FILL THIS BOOK.
Someone has already attempted this.
www.amazon.com/The-Game-Penetrating-Soc ... 0060554738
Better off just leaving the pages blank.
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Now, I came into another realization:
I can FILL THIS BOOK.
Someone has already attempted this.
www.amazon.com/The-Game-Penetrating-Soc ... 0060554738
Better off just leaving the pages blank.
Not sure if you have read it but that book is mostly neill´s experience around PUAdom. Its in no way an attempt to understand women.
Its not meant to be seen as "the book", even though some people try to put it as such, and its meant to be taken as a little insight on what goes on at PUA communities(some of the things are highly unlikely to happen to average readers but the part that deals with until he became famous/met courtney love could theoretically happen to anyone) so that you can decide for yourself if you are interested in PUA or not.
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that women dont want an autistic to father their children?
Well, certainly they prefer healthy people to father children.
Individuality aside, there are few things that ALL women I knew/met/dated have in common (they all share almost the same human genome and the same gender, so I don't why it's taboo to talk about the common things).
Here we go:
- They're clingy: Once attached, maybe even slightly, they'll keep messaging/texting/communicating you, and if you don't respond or take a long pause they start ask you where were you and where you doing.
- Most of them are jealous.
- Like men, looks is very important to them yet often they don't admit it: I proved this in earlier threads, I don't think this deserves a further explanation.
- I found they all evaluate men according to three values: Appearance value (looks, self presenting...), entertainment value (sense of humor, activities, adventures, stories, capability to travel....etc) and reputation* value (ie. due to fame, popularity, success, social status and how her friends view him).
It's all about the overall score of this trio combination
For ex, a biker or a ladies'man might have a low reputation but very high the first two values, hence why he would attract a lot of women (or maybe he has a good reputation in other things like how good in bed he is).
A successful businessman might be boring to tears but have a very high reputation due to his success so he can compete the gangster biker in attractiveness.
*Reputation isn't simply the social status, it's more about how others view or think the guy! In my friendzoning guy's girls days I've noticed this same pattern in different groups of girls when they talk about some Guy A "Ie. A has X and does Y and works in Z and achieved W...etc", the more they talk about him in a good way the more their interest increase.
The reputation value has the most impact since it can be simultaneously increased by the two other values, a 40th local man once told me "it's all about reputation, son", I thought he was being idiot but my short exp me that he was so damn right.
- They want a leader guy: feminists would kill me for that.
that women dont want an autistic to father their children?
Well, certainly they prefer healthy people to father children.
Individuality aside, there are few things that ALL women I knew/met/dated have in common (they all share almost the same human genome and the same gender, so I don't why it's taboo to talk about the common things).
Here we go:
- They're clingy: Once attached, maybe even slightly, they'll keep messaging/texting/communicating you, and if you don't respond or take a long pause they start ask you where were you and where you doing.
- Most of them are jealous.
- Like men, looks is very important to them yet often they don't admit it: I proved this in earlier threads, I don't think this deserves a further explanation.
- I found they all evaluate men according to three values: Appearance value (looks, self presenting...), entertainment value (sense of humor, activities, adventures, stories, capability to travel....etc) and reputation* value (ie. due to fame, popularity, success, social status and how her friends view him).
It's all about the overall score of this trio combination
For ex, a biker or a ladies'man might have a low reputation but very high the first two values, hence why he would attract a lot of women (or maybe he has a good reputation in other things like how good in bed he is).
A successful businessman might be boring to tears but have a very high reputation due to his success so he can compete the gangster biker in attractiveness.
*Reputation isn't simply the social status, it's more about how others view or think the guy! In my friendzoning guy's girls days I've noticed this same pattern in different groups of girls when they talk about some Guy A "Ie. A has X and does Y and works in Z and achieved W...etc", the more they talk about him in a good way the more their interest increase.
The reputation value has the most impact since it can be simultaneously increased by the two other values, a 40th local man once told me "it's all about reputation, son", I thought he was being idiot but my short exp me that he was so damn right.
- They want a leader guy: feminists would kill me for that.
This isn't true of all women, possibly most NT women. I'd agree on the appearance and entertainment value aspects but reputation isn't important to me at all in fact probably the opposite as I tend to relate best to other outsiders. I certainly don't want a leader as I usually have a major struggle to be the one in control.
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that women dont want an autistic to father their children?
Well, certainly they prefer healthy people to father children.
Individuality aside, there are few things that ALL women I knew/met/dated have in common (they all share almost the same human genome and the same gender, so I don't why it's taboo to talk about the common things).
Here we go:
- They're clingy: Once attached, maybe even slightly, they'll keep messaging/texting/communicating you, and if you don't respond or take a long pause they start ask you where were you and where you doing.
- Most of them are jealous.
- Like men, looks is very important to them yet often they don't admit it: I proved this in earlier threads, I don't think this deserves a further explanation.
- I found they all evaluate men according to three values: Appearance value (looks, self presenting...), entertainment value (sense of humor, activities, adventures, stories, capability to travel....etc) and reputation* value (ie. due to fame, popularity, success, social status and how her friends view him).
It's all about the overall score of this trio combination
For ex, a biker or a ladies'man might have a low reputation but very high the first two values, hence why he would attract a lot of women (or maybe he has a good reputation in other things like how good in bed he is).
A successful businessman might be boring to tears but have a very high reputation due to his success so he can compete the gangster biker in attractiveness.
*Reputation isn't simply the social status, it's more about how others view or think the guy! In my friendzoning guy's girls days I've noticed this same pattern in different groups of girls when they talk about some Guy A "Ie. A has X and does Y and works in Z and achieved W...etc", the more they talk about him in a good way the more their interest increase.
The reputation value has the most impact since it can be simultaneously increased by the two other values, a 40th local man once told me "it's all about reputation, son", I thought he was being idiot but my short exp me that he was so damn right.
- They want a leader guy: feminists would kill me for that.
Are you talking about NT women as this doesn't hold true for me at all, in fact I'd say I look for the opposite of most of those categories. You are defining an NT man basically.
I've never met an aspie woman.
that women dont want an autistic to father their children?
Well, certainly they prefer healthy people to father children.
Individuality aside, there are few things that ALL women I knew/met/dated have in common (they all share almost the same human genome and the same gender, so I don't why it's taboo to talk about the common things).
Here we go:
- They're clingy: Once attached, maybe even slightly, they'll keep messaging/texting/communicating you, and if you don't respond or take a long pause they start ask you where were you and where you doing.
- Most of them are jealous.
- Like men, looks is very important to them yet often they don't admit it: I proved this in earlier threads, I don't think this deserves a further explanation.
- I found they all evaluate men according to three values: Appearance value (looks, self presenting...), entertainment value (sense of humor, activities, adventures, stories, capability to travel....etc) and reputation* value (ie. due to fame, popularity, success, social status and how her friends view him).
It's all about the overall score of this trio combination
For ex, a biker or a ladies'man might have a low reputation but very high the first two values, hence why he would attract a lot of women (or maybe he has a good reputation in other things like how good in bed he is).
A successful businessman might be boring to tears but have a very high reputation due to his success so he can compete the gangster biker in attractiveness.
*Reputation isn't simply the social status, it's more about how others view or think the guy! In my friendzoning guy's girls days I've noticed this same pattern in different groups of girls when they talk about some Guy A "Ie. A has X and does Y and works in Z and achieved W...etc", the more they talk about him in a good way the more their interest increase.
The reputation value has the most impact since it can be simultaneously increased by the two other values, a 40th local man once told me "it's all about reputation, son", I thought he was being idiot but my short exp me that he was so damn right.
- They want a leader guy: feminists would kill me for that.
Are you talking about NT women as this doesn't hold true for me at all, in fact I'd say I look for the opposite of most of those categories. You are defining an NT man basically.
I've never met an aspie woman.
OK, I changed my post anyway as some of the requirements are true for me.
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Lol - us women! Can't make up our minds!
Obviously looks will come into it and no one wants to be with someone who bores them if they're honest.
I've been told I'm dull by an ex so it's imperative for me to have someone who's witty and funny to liven things up or the dullness quotient will be even greater!
I do think witty people like to have an adoring audience 'You're SO funny!' so that's usually my role lol
Yeah you do need someone to "brighten" you up.
Can't really suggest anyone though.
Besides, if your that dull... just get a tan... a bright orange one.
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