Do you sometimes dream of a very simple life?

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03 Sep 2012, 7:53 am

I sometimes daydream of what might be the perfect life for me. In that daydream I'm a little older than now and I live on some island somewhere with a rather cold climate (so maybe scandinavia or something like that). I live on some kind of farm and basically my whole life is being outside in perfect silence (except for nature sounds) with no neighbours to be seen and working physically on that farm. There are only very vague shapes of other people.

I actually considered entering an abbey (don't know if that's the correct word) because some people do that when they want to "simplify their life". I imagine it would be great to live in isolation from the real world, with nothing to do but a little work (that doesn't require me to socialise). Problem is, I'm not religious.

Do you know those thoughts and daydreams? Do you long for a simple, isolated life yourselves?



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03 Sep 2012, 7:54 am

Yes, I do have fantasies like those were I live in near total isolation.



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03 Sep 2012, 8:46 am

When I was little I read My Side of the Mountain (which is about a boy who runs away and lives in a hollowed out tree in the woods). I wanted to do that for a long time until I realized I probably wouldn't last a week foraging in the wilderness. Now I dream about living in a tiny cabin in the woods with no electricity or anything and growing my own food (maybe raise some chickens). This sounds very appealing, especially on days when just dealing with the crowds at the grocery store wipes me out completely.



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03 Sep 2012, 8:53 am

Sometimes I wish that I was a different person and I was born in the 1930's or something like that.



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03 Sep 2012, 9:07 am

I'm doing something like that, minus the work, right now. It's only a dream if nightmares count.



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03 Sep 2012, 9:08 am

Apart from blistering heat compared to cool weather, I live your dream.

Rural, heaps of land, heaps of work on the land, no people around (other than the main road that connects it all), but that's not busy, you can walk with a shotgun slung over your shoulder and you aren't thought of as a "gun nut" (it's just a farm tool), you can have horses, cattle and other stock if you wish. You can farm vegetables and be self-sufficient if you're able (I can't, but if you aren't as disabled as me you're fine).

I wouldn't swap it for anything.

I don't need the suburbs/cities and the people.

I've found about 50% of people can handle the solitary and "simple" life (it's not really "simple" though, as it's work). This is going by those who move out here and move back to the suburbs in short order.



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03 Sep 2012, 9:10 am

I have had fantasies like that a lot.

But it's hard in a world where you HAVE to be social in some way to get a majority of the jobs, even blogging, in order to make to advertise your product, or blog, or book (if you self-publish), you have to be good at networking, and building an audience, and know what that audience wants, etc. Which is why I suck at marketing.

When I write, when I used to sell my crocheted items, etc, I did so because I wanted to do it,, and so I did it my way, and as a result, I get few visitors, and bad networking skills. In order to be a popular blogger, vlogger, youtuber, writer, small-business owner, walmart worker, you have to be good with social.

I want an easy life, but my lack of social skill prevents me from doing so.


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03 Sep 2012, 10:56 am

I would not like to live in complete isolation. Maybe some small rural village(without school!).



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03 Sep 2012, 12:24 pm

I live an hour from Wal Mart.Nearest neighbor is 1/4 mile away,I can't see another house or see lights at night.There are wild animals in the yard all the time. It is a simple life but that's not to mean easy.I have wood heat so you have to haul wood in the house all winter long,it gets old towards spring.If we get hard rains you may not get out for a day or so because the creeks are up.Power can go out for weeks if we get a bad ice or snow.Hospital one hour away,no gas anywhere after nine p.m. Or you'll drive an hour.I wouldn't trade it for the world but it's not for everyone.Most people have a romanticized idea of what life in a rural area is like.I have watched people come and go and a lot can't handle the social isolation,they last a couple years and flock back to the burbs or city.It's not as crime free either,we have a bad meth problem so home invasions are on the rise,it might take the cops 30 mnts or more to get here.You have to be able to defend yourself if need be.On the plus side people are more willing to help you if you are broke down on the road,and since people are real nosy in the county(nothing else to do) suspicious characters and strangers are noticed right away and people are super generous with their extra garden goodies and there's lots of wild food such as yummy blackberries.Watch out for bears,they love berries.The quiet at night is amazing and the best ever star gazing.



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03 Sep 2012, 1:23 pm

sometimes I dream of being much lower functioning so I would not be obligated to do so much.



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03 Sep 2012, 1:27 pm

"Yes, I do have fantasies like those were I live in near total isolation" somewhere close to Monaco.



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03 Sep 2012, 1:46 pm

I never really stop dreaming of a simple, idyllic life. However, I doubt very much that I will ever live such a life.

It's interesting that so many Aspies say that they actually want to live alone. I find it difficult to socialise but whenever I'm away from my friends, I long to be around them again.

Am I the only one here who really desires friendship and social interaction?


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03 Sep 2012, 1:57 pm

I often dream of a rural place where my cats could go in and out of the house freely without me having to take them in the elevator 5 floors. A little house where I could have breakfast in the porch seeing green around me. But safety and snakes are big concerns of mine, so I have to stick to an apt...


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03 Sep 2012, 2:33 pm

I'm not sure this qualifies as a simple life but I do dream of being isolated from the rest of society. This is an entry from my journal/private blog:

So I just finished reading 20, 000 Leagues Under the Sea. It's so wonderfully conducive to creating an imaginary world. A character that I created earlier in connection to another novel series is called waterLilly. I've now created a crossover world in which Captain Nemo survives the disaster at the end of 20,000 Leagues (it's deliberately left unclear at the end of the book whether he survives) and meets waterLilly. Captain Nemo continues his exploration and study of the deep seas in the Nautilus, and continues to renounce his connection to the terrestrial world and the other human beings who live there (the name Nemo means noone). WaterLilly is a learned sorceress so she can breathe under water magically for extended periods of time with the proper charm (which she is adept at casting). She also has uncovered a potion which if taken once a month can make her immortal and eternally young. Her true age is unknown. She also dislikes human society and she lives mainly in the oceans and rivers of the world, traveling around with the marine life with whom she has a special connection and rescuing injured creatures with her magic when need be. Her name is Lilly (or perhaps she is called that but her true name is unknown). She loves water lilies and can perform a charm to make herself weightless so she can float atop them....thus she is called waterLilly. There are sightings of her all over world and she has become a legend, there are myths about her which like all legends and myths, at least in this world, have some truth to them but are distorted. Now she meets with Captain Nemo occasionally, and they explore the sea together and have adventures...helping human and marine animals alike, when they venture near or in to the seas. He grows fond of her and collects water-lilies for her and hopes to see her. WaterLilly is of course the character that I "play" in my imaginary world. I want to re-read the book just in order to keep this world prominent in my mind. Nemo and I (waterLilly) are starting to very good imagologue (dialogue between imaginary entities).



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03 Sep 2012, 3:59 pm

Yes, I wish I was a 60-year-old, just retired, been with a husband for decades and not likely to split up, live in a small cottage out in the country, both have a pension, be surrounded by nice friendly people (no bitchy teenagers or snooty people), and have an enjoyment in cooking and my husband have an enjoyment in gardening, and never having to worry about finding work and having the worry of losing jobs, et cetera.

I haven't even got that to look forward to because I'm not even going to retire. By the time I get to 60 they'll probably raise the retirement age right up to 100, I reckon. It's not fair, life only comes once and you spend most of it working.


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03 Sep 2012, 5:33 pm

Sanctus wrote:
I sometimes daydream of what might be the perfect life for me. In that daydream I'm a little older than now and I live on some island somewhere with a rather cold climate (so maybe scandinavia or something like that). I live on some kind of farm and basically my whole life is being outside in perfect silence (except for nature sounds) with no neighbours to be seen and working physically on that farm. There are only very vague shapes of other people.

I actually considered entering an abbey (don't know if that's the correct word) because some people do that when they want to "simplify their life". I imagine it would be great to live in isolation from the real world, with nothing to do but a little work (that doesn't require me to socialise). Problem is, I'm not religious.

Do you know those thoughts and daydreams? Do you long for a simple, isolated life yourselves?


Something like this is my end goal in life. I am working towards a career that allows me to not work for 3-5 months out of the year and my goal is to purchase land somewhere that I will go to during that downtime. Absolute isolation for the most part, aside from say crop shares or farmers markets where I could sell my goods to have some mild interaction with people in a controlled environment where the conversations are simple and predictable. That way I could focus on reading, writing, farming, and "being me."