I'm not diagnosed, currently trying to get an assessment.
Funnily enough, I was thinking today of starting a thread based on the subject in the OP: that people can just somehow tell there is something different about me. But family and friends don't seem to be able to see it and don't know what I'm talking about. Maybe the people who have always known me are used to it, and people who like me from the off are those who can't see it?
Many a time it's happened that I have managed to look someone in the eye and they have flinched. Only very slightly, and if I weren't actually looking for it I wouldn't have picked up on it. It's so subtle I wonder if it is even conscious on their part. But it is always after that eye contact that they turn cold on me and seem wary of me.
Back on topic though. I was bullied right through school. For being slow, for being clever and for supposedly being a snob (I never was, I just had my mother's well-spoken accent, I was painfully shy and was mocked whenever I spoke, so I didn't speak much). Then it just escalated into everything I did being wrong. Goading me until I snapped, then I'd be punished.
I would have had some respite at uni apart from the fact that I was with a boyfriend who turned cruel and emotionally abusive. He told me constantly that no-one else would ever want me, which I know is what bullies say, but in my case it has been proven correct.
As for working life, whenever I have managed to get a job I've become the target of a bully within the first fortnight.
Adult friendships haven't been a lot better. I've recently had two people stop speaking to me for no reason I know of (not the first time it happened) and every man I've ever dated (all four of them) has cheated on me and constantly lied to me.
This is my world. Whether it is Aspergers or not, it seems other people can clearly see that something isn't quite right about me.
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"She could pass for normal in dim light, but just wait till she opens her mouth"